I could have come across the wrong way. I’m pretty sure I mentioned a utility function at one point. I tried not to come across as cold. I think I gave her a chance to express her views. But she never did, so either I didn’t do a good enough job or she had another reason not to express them (shock at me, never thought about it, etc).
Well, I suppose as a general advice, it’s not a good idea to utter the words “utility function” on the first date with a person not already familiar with the term. Also, listening and empathizing (or, if you prefer, “constructing a mental model”) is a rational thing to do when meeting new people, date or no date.
I could have come across the wrong way. I’m pretty sure I mentioned a utility function at one point. I tried not to come across as cold. I think I gave her a chance to express her views. But she never did, so either I didn’t do a good enough job or she had another reason not to express them (shock at me, never thought about it, etc).
Well, I suppose as a general advice, it’s not a good idea to utter the words “utility function” on the first date with a person not already familiar with the term. Also, listening and empathizing (or, if you prefer, “constructing a mental model”) is a rational thing to do when meeting new people, date or no date.