I personally wouldn’t decide to have kids in a warzone…
...but it’s okay if others do it? How is that different from saying, “I personally woudn’t decide to abuse children...”
Is there any context outside of sudden, subjectively unlikely disaster where the quote is meaningful?
It was written by Michael Jackson. I don’t think he was referring to sudden, subjectively unlikely disasters, but the personal material means of people deciding to become parents.
How is that different from saying, “I personally woudn’t decide to abuse children...”
It’s impossible to have children and do no actions whatsoever which are less than optimal for the children. Rather, people make—and have to make—tradeoffs between things being bad for the children and other considerations. There is an acceptable range of such tradeoffs. Having kids in a warzone falls in that range and abusing kids does not. And even if you think people making other tradeoffs are actually wrong rather than just making the tradeoffs based on different circumstances, there are degrees of being wrong and abuse is wrong to a greater degree.
The dominating distinction between our perspectives is that I don’t think having kids in a warzone is an acceptable tradeoff, where you think it is.
This is probably just an intuitive disagreement about the relative harm and benefit of being born into a warzone.
I think it is clearly a very bad deal for the child, and to do it recklessly or out of selfishness in fact constitutes a form of child abuse. Of course, if you would actually rather be born into poverty or war, than not be born, you will disagree where the acceptable range lies.
We do not disagree about the rest of the argument.
...but it’s okay if others do it? How is that different from saying, “I personally woudn’t decide to abuse children...”
It was written by Michael Jackson. I don’t think he was referring to sudden, subjectively unlikely disasters, but the personal material means of people deciding to become parents.
It’s impossible to have children and do no actions whatsoever which are less than optimal for the children. Rather, people make—and have to make—tradeoffs between things being bad for the children and other considerations. There is an acceptable range of such tradeoffs. Having kids in a warzone falls in that range and abusing kids does not. And even if you think people making other tradeoffs are actually wrong rather than just making the tradeoffs based on different circumstances, there are degrees of being wrong and abuse is wrong to a greater degree.
The dominating distinction between our perspectives is that I don’t think having kids in a warzone is an acceptable tradeoff, where you think it is.
This is probably just an intuitive disagreement about the relative harm and benefit of being born into a warzone.
I think it is clearly a very bad deal for the child, and to do it recklessly or out of selfishness in fact constitutes a form of child abuse. Of course, if you would actually rather be born into poverty or war, than not be born, you will disagree where the acceptable range lies.
We do not disagree about the rest of the argument.
Is it the same to die without ever abusing children and to die childless?