The problem is that I’m already complicit in the deception. Besides putting quarters under her pillow, last night (Dec 24) I helped her mother put presents from Santa under the tree. Even before then, I was with her mother while she bought presents that were going to be (and eventually were) from Santa, and I knew all about it.
If somebody were fooling her about Jesus in this way, I would be a lot more worried. (I’m not sure how I’d intervene, which would depend a lot on circumstances, but I’d certainly want to.) But she’ll find out about Santa soon enough; I justify it to myself as less important. Lying to a kid about Santa, like making honest mistakes when talking about Jesus, is raising a child differently from how I would (whereas as lying to a kid about Jesus, with the intent that they believe the lie forever, is a step beyond).
However, I do have an answer for questions from random children about the existence of Santa (which I haven’t really tried out yet). And that is to quiz them about where they think that their presents come from, giving them a chance to figure out this answer for themselves. That’s probably what I’ll do here; the complication is that I know exactly where her presents come from (and by direction observation rather than by deduction from reasonable assumptions, as I would for a random child).
In any case, I don’t think that she’s likely to ask me for another year now.
Well, she asked me a couple of weeks ago, for no reason that I know. I did as planned: asked who got the presents. She replied that Santa uses different wrapping paper than her mother does and seemed satisfied with that. (However, I never suggested the hypothesis that it was her mother who got the presents. Of course it’s the obvious guess, but this means that she was actually thinking about it.)
The problem is that I’m already complicit in the deception. Besides putting quarters under her pillow, last night (Dec 24) I helped her mother put presents from Santa under the tree. Even before then, I was with her mother while she bought presents that were going to be (and eventually were) from Santa, and I knew all about it.
If somebody were fooling her about Jesus in this way, I would be a lot more worried. (I’m not sure how I’d intervene, which would depend a lot on circumstances, but I’d certainly want to.) But she’ll find out about Santa soon enough; I justify it to myself as less important. Lying to a kid about Santa, like making honest mistakes when talking about Jesus, is raising a child differently from how I would (whereas as lying to a kid about Jesus, with the intent that they believe the lie forever, is a step beyond).
However, I do have an answer for questions from random children about the existence of Santa (which I haven’t really tried out yet). And that is to quiz them about where they think that their presents come from, giving them a chance to figure out this answer for themselves. That’s probably what I’ll do here; the complication is that I know exactly where her presents come from (and by direction observation rather than by deduction from reasonable assumptions, as I would for a random child).
In any case, I don’t think that she’s likely to ask me for another year now.
Well, she asked me a couple of weeks ago, for no reason that I know. I did as planned: asked who got the presents. She replied that Santa uses different wrapping paper than her mother does and seemed satisfied with that. (However, I never suggested the hypothesis that it was her mother who got the presents. Of course it’s the obvious guess, but this means that she was actually thinking about it.)