There’s one example of the Bruce Effect that immediately jumps at me because it
a)Has been incredibly active in my life
b)Squares so well with the adaptionist explanation of the Bruce Effect
My chief form of self sabotage has always been with the opposite sex. Someone will hit on me, or my own advances will begin to go somewhere, and I’ll do something to bring things to a halt. On present reflection it feels very much like I’m afraid of the challenges that would follow—that flirting with someone I find really attractive feels like embarking on some terrifying balancing act, and the failure is a return to the natural order of things—reassuring and predictable.
The kind of thinking that might lead someone to avoid seeking higher status within a peer group which he didn’t feel capable of maintaining.
There’s one example of the Bruce Effect that immediately jumps at me because it
a)Has been incredibly active in my life
b)Squares so well with the adaptionist explanation of the Bruce Effect
My chief form of self sabotage has always been with the opposite sex. Someone will hit on me, or my own advances will begin to go somewhere, and I’ll do something to bring things to a halt. On present reflection it feels very much like I’m afraid of the challenges that would follow—that flirting with someone I find really attractive feels like embarking on some terrifying balancing act, and the failure is a return to the natural order of things—reassuring and predictable. The kind of thinking that might lead someone to avoid seeking higher status within a peer group which he didn’t feel capable of maintaining.