The problem with having the conversation in public is precisely that other people will be asking “wait, what precious thing, exactly?” which derails the high context conversation.
I get that, but if the high-context extensive private conversation doesn’t or can’t) identify the precious thing, it seems somewhat likely that either you’re both politely accepting that the other may be thinking about something else entirely, and/or it may not actually be a thing.
I very much like your idea that you should have the conversation with the default expectation of publishing at a later time. If you haven’t been able to agree on what the thing is by then, I think the other people asking “wait, what precious thing exactly” are probably genuinely confused.
Note that I realize and have not resolved the tension between my worry that indescribable things aren’t things, and my belief that much (and perhaps most) of human decision-making is based on illegible-but-valid beliefs. I wonder if at least some of this conversation is pointing to a tendency to leak illegible beliefs into intellectual discussions in ways that could be called “bias” or “deception” if you think the measurable world is the entirety of truth, but which could also be reasonably framed as “correction” or “debiasing” a limited partial view toward the holistic/invisible reality. I’m not sure I can make that argument, but I would respect it and take it seriously if someone did.
I get that, but if the high-context extensive private conversation doesn’t or can’t) identify the precious thing, it seems somewhat likely that either you’re both politely accepting that the other may be thinking about something else entirely, and/or it may not actually be a thing.
I very much like your idea that you should have the conversation with the default expectation of publishing at a later time. If you haven’t been able to agree on what the thing is by then, I think the other people asking “wait, what precious thing exactly” are probably genuinely confused.
Note that I realize and have not resolved the tension between my worry that indescribable things aren’t things, and my belief that much (and perhaps most) of human decision-making is based on illegible-but-valid beliefs. I wonder if at least some of this conversation is pointing to a tendency to leak illegible beliefs into intellectual discussions in ways that could be called “bias” or “deception” if you think the measurable world is the entirety of truth, but which could also be reasonably framed as “correction” or “debiasing” a limited partial view toward the holistic/invisible reality. I’m not sure I can make that argument, but I would respect it and take it seriously if someone did.