I used to have a group of friends (some closer than others), and we would all get together and play Settlers of Catan a given day of the week (~4 years ago, I don’t remember which day it was). It consisted of the “same thing” (obviously the game turned out differently every week, but still) every week. There was not really room for “nonparticipation” in the sense that if you wanted to hang out with these people that day, you played Catan. Would it upset you if you learned that there was a regular meetup of Catan LW enthusiasts who meet once a week to play?
Some of my closest friends are from the Israeli filking community. There’s no “ritual” per se, but we know and love the same songs, we sing them together and not-singing is kinda frowned upon. It’s certainly “weird”, and even somewhat exclusionary (helped by a bit of justified feeling of persecution from the rest of SF fandom). Would it upset you if you learned that there was a regular meetup of Filk LW enthusiasts who meet once a week to sing together?
I’m really asking these questions (in the sense that I do not find myself certain either way for what your answer will be, although I assign >.5 that it will be “no” on both).
If it is a “no”, then it seems these are not your true rejections.
If it is a “yes”, you seem to have a wide brush to paint “things I do not want LWers to do.”
Basically, rituals force themselves to be identity components more than other activities. I can play catan or not without feeling like I’m a cataner or not. I don’t want there to be rituals that make you feel like an lwer or not.
It would upset me if either of those were primary activities of the lw group in the place I was in.
There is a rather enormous difference between things I care whether lwers do and things I care whether lw does. Some lwers somewhere having rituals doesn’t bother me, every lw group deciding rituals are a good idea and adopting them would. I don’t think this is actually a big risk but I think it’s worth pointing out especially since the context is the especially influential NYLW group.
Also, the less strict something is the less I care whether it’s a ritualized regular occurrence. I would much rather come to a song night than to a night for the same specific songs each time, and I would basically never go to catan night.
There is a rather enormous difference between things I care whether lwers do and things I care whether lw does. Some lwers somewhere having rituals doesn’t bother me, every lw group deciding rituals are a good idea and adopting them would.
I feel the same way, and this is a large part of my motivation for posting my objections in this thread.
I’m trying to steelman your arguments as much as I can, but I find myself confused. The best I can do is: “I’m worried that people would find LW communities unwelcoming if they do not go to rituals. Further, I’m worried that rituals are a slippery-slope: once we start having rituals, they might start being the primary activity of LW and make the experience unwelcoming even if non-ritual activities are explicitly open, because it feels more like ’a Church group that occasionally has secular activities. I’m worried that this will divide people into those who properly mark themselves as “LWers” and those who don’t, thus starting our entropic decay into a cult.”
So far, your objections seem to be to this being the primary activity of the LW group, which—honestly—I would join you. But if a regularly meeting LW group also had a Catan night once a week (for Catan enthusiasts, obviously—if you don’t like Catan don’t come) and a Filk night once a month (for filk enthusiasts, again), I am not sure this would hasten a descent into a Catan-only or filk-only group. Similarly, if a LW group has a ritual once a year (or even if every LW group has a ritual, and even it’s the same ritual), it doesn’t seem likely rituals will become the primary thing the group does.
“There is a rather enormous difference between things I care whether lwers do and things I care whether lw does.”
I notice I am confused. LessWrong is a web site, and to some extent a community of people, which I tend to refer to as “Less Wrongers”. If you mean these words the same as I do, then I do not understand—“LW does something” means “the community does something” which means “many members do something”. I’m not really sure how LW does something is distinguished from LWers doing it...
If I join a golf club where all its members apart from me also happen to be in the bowling club, I’m still not joining the bowling club. I don’t care if “Golfers” go bowling, but it would be really annoying if “gold club” became about bowling, or if I showed up to golf club and all the golfers spend the day talking about that awesome bowling experience they had over the weekend. I never wanted to be parted of a rituals club and wouldn’t have joined a “Have debates/hangouts about AI, epistemology, rationality, morality, meta-ethics, and logic with interesting people and do rituals with them club.”
Basically, I agree with Said’s answer to Raemon’s answer to you.
Insofar as the rituals are something fun people want to do, I don’t mind. Insofar as the rituals are presented as “This is something objectively awesome that you should rationally want for your own LW group!” I do.
“There is a rather enormous difference between things I care whether lwers do and things I care whether lw does.”
This actually makes a fair amount of sense to me. There’s a few ways to interpret it. The most obvious one to me is “Less Wrong has a reputation, built into its mission statement, about caring about rationality, winning at life, etc. I value those things.” Depending on how collectivist you are, you might either care that people can look at you, say “That person is a LWer,” and then correctly infer that you care about rationality and winning at life.
Or, more collectivist-y (which ordinarily I’d give higher likelihood to but maybe not in this case), one might enjoy feeling an identity as a Less Wronger, which includes, built into that identity, caring about epistemic truth and instrumental victory.
I can definitely see it unpleasant if “being a Less Wronger” came to be known, both among the community’s allies and enemies, as (insert arbitrary thing you don’t like here)
For example, I’m not a Objectivist, but Less Wrong terminology shares some common ancestry with Objectivism. So when I’m explaining LW to new people (especially more liberal people), I often get “wait, so is this an Objectivism thing?” which is annoying to me, not just because they are drawing false conclusions about me which I have to correct—but also because I don’t really like Objectivism and it leaves an icky (irrational) feeling just to feel connected to that movement.
There’s another interpretation, which is “the sorts of things that LW groups do affects whether I participate in LW communities [in the sense of particular local groups] and thereby the extent to which I participate in the greater LW community [in the larger sense of “people who identify as ‘LWers’ and do things collectively on that basis]”.
After all, if I want to engage with the larger LW community, the most direct (and one of the most feasible by far) ways to do so is to participate in your local LW community, should such exist. One can hardly choose to participate in some other local LW community that is located in Whatevertown, Distantstate.
For example, I’m not a Objectivist, but Less Wrong terminology shares some common ancestry with Objectivism. So when I’m explaining LW to new people (especially more liberal people), I often get “wait, so is this an Objectivism thing?”
I’m very unfamiliar with Objectivism, and this comment made me curious: what terminology do we share with that movement?
I used to have a group of friends (some closer than others), and we would all get together and play Settlers of Catan a given day of the week (~4 years ago, I don’t remember which day it was). It consisted of the “same thing” (obviously the game turned out differently every week, but still) every week. There was not really room for “nonparticipation” in the sense that if you wanted to hang out with these people that day, you played Catan. Would it upset you if you learned that there was a regular meetup of Catan LW enthusiasts who meet once a week to play?
Some of my closest friends are from the Israeli filking community. There’s no “ritual” per se, but we know and love the same songs, we sing them together and not-singing is kinda frowned upon. It’s certainly “weird”, and even somewhat exclusionary (helped by a bit of justified feeling of persecution from the rest of SF fandom). Would it upset you if you learned that there was a regular meetup of Filk LW enthusiasts who meet once a week to sing together?
I’m really asking these questions (in the sense that I do not find myself certain either way for what your answer will be, although I assign >.5 that it will be “no” on both).
If it is a “no”, then it seems these are not your true rejections.
If it is a “yes”, you seem to have a wide brush to paint “things I do not want LWers to do.”
Basically, rituals force themselves to be identity components more than other activities. I can play catan or not without feeling like I’m a cataner or not. I don’t want there to be rituals that make you feel like an lwer or not.
Whatever happened to keeping identities small?
It would upset me if either of those were primary activities of the lw group in the place I was in.
There is a rather enormous difference between things I care whether lwers do and things I care whether lw does. Some lwers somewhere having rituals doesn’t bother me, every lw group deciding rituals are a good idea and adopting them would. I don’t think this is actually a big risk but I think it’s worth pointing out especially since the context is the especially influential NYLW group.
Also, the less strict something is the less I care whether it’s a ritualized regular occurrence. I would much rather come to a song night than to a night for the same specific songs each time, and I would basically never go to catan night.
I feel the same way, and this is a large part of my motivation for posting my objections in this thread.
I’m trying to steelman your arguments as much as I can, but I find myself confused. The best I can do is: “I’m worried that people would find LW communities unwelcoming if they do not go to rituals. Further, I’m worried that rituals are a slippery-slope: once we start having rituals, they might start being the primary activity of LW and make the experience unwelcoming even if non-ritual activities are explicitly open, because it feels more like ’a Church group that occasionally has secular activities. I’m worried that this will divide people into those who properly mark themselves as “LWers” and those who don’t, thus starting our entropic decay into a cult.”
So far, your objections seem to be to this being the primary activity of the LW group, which—honestly—I would join you. But if a regularly meeting LW group also had a Catan night once a week (for Catan enthusiasts, obviously—if you don’t like Catan don’t come) and a Filk night once a month (for filk enthusiasts, again), I am not sure this would hasten a descent into a Catan-only or filk-only group. Similarly, if a LW group has a ritual once a year (or even if every LW group has a ritual, and even it’s the same ritual), it doesn’t seem likely rituals will become the primary thing the group does.
“There is a rather enormous difference between things I care whether lwers do and things I care whether lw does.”
I notice I am confused. LessWrong is a web site, and to some extent a community of people, which I tend to refer to as “Less Wrongers”. If you mean these words the same as I do, then I do not understand—“LW does something” means “the community does something” which means “many members do something”. I’m not really sure how LW does something is distinguished from LWers doing it...
If I join a golf club where all its members apart from me also happen to be in the bowling club, I’m still not joining the bowling club. I don’t care if “Golfers” go bowling, but it would be really annoying if “gold club” became about bowling, or if I showed up to golf club and all the golfers spend the day talking about that awesome bowling experience they had over the weekend. I never wanted to be parted of a rituals club and wouldn’t have joined a “Have debates/hangouts about AI, epistemology, rationality, morality, meta-ethics, and logic with interesting people and do rituals with them club.”
Basically, I agree with Said’s answer to Raemon’s answer to you.
Insofar as the rituals are something fun people want to do, I don’t mind. Insofar as the rituals are presented as “This is something objectively awesome that you should rationally want for your own LW group!” I do.
This actually makes a fair amount of sense to me. There’s a few ways to interpret it. The most obvious one to me is “Less Wrong has a reputation, built into its mission statement, about caring about rationality, winning at life, etc. I value those things.” Depending on how collectivist you are, you might either care that people can look at you, say “That person is a LWer,” and then correctly infer that you care about rationality and winning at life.
Or, more collectivist-y (which ordinarily I’d give higher likelihood to but maybe not in this case), one might enjoy feeling an identity as a Less Wronger, which includes, built into that identity, caring about epistemic truth and instrumental victory.
I can definitely see it unpleasant if “being a Less Wronger” came to be known, both among the community’s allies and enemies, as (insert arbitrary thing you don’t like here)
For example, I’m not a Objectivist, but Less Wrong terminology shares some common ancestry with Objectivism. So when I’m explaining LW to new people (especially more liberal people), I often get “wait, so is this an Objectivism thing?” which is annoying to me, not just because they are drawing false conclusions about me which I have to correct—but also because I don’t really like Objectivism and it leaves an icky (irrational) feeling just to feel connected to that movement.
There’s another interpretation, which is “the sorts of things that LW groups do affects whether I participate in LW communities [in the sense of particular local groups] and thereby the extent to which I participate in the greater LW community [in the larger sense of “people who identify as ‘LWers’ and do things collectively on that basis]”.
After all, if I want to engage with the larger LW community, the most direct (and one of the most feasible by far) ways to do so is to participate in your local LW community, should such exist. One can hardly choose to participate in some other local LW community that is located in Whatevertown, Distantstate.
I’m very unfamiliar with Objectivism, and this comment made me curious: what terminology do we share with that movement?