That said, if I recognize that I’m in a group that values “fairness” as an abstract virtue, then arguing that my situation isn’t fair is often a useful way of solving my problem by recruiting alliances.
I am in many groups where, when choosing between two strategies A and B, fairness is one of the things we take into account. I’m not sure that’s a problem.
If it’s a frequently-occurring observation within the group then yes, there seems to be something wrong. Possibly because things are regularly proposed and acted on without considering fairness until someone has to point it out.
If it hardly ever has to be said, but when pointed out, it is often persuasive, you’re probably OK.
That said, if I recognize that I’m in a group that values “fairness” as an abstract virtue, then arguing that my situation isn’t fair is often a useful way of solving my problem by recruiting alliances.
If you’re in a group where “that’s not fair” is frequently a winning argument, you may already be in trouble.
I am in many groups where, when choosing between two strategies A and B, fairness is one of the things we take into account. I’m not sure that’s a problem.
If it’s a frequently-occurring observation within the group then yes, there seems to be something wrong. Possibly because things are regularly proposed and acted on without considering fairness until someone has to point it out.
If it hardly ever has to be said, but when pointed out, it is often persuasive, you’re probably OK.