True (but obvious) taken literally. But if you also mean it’s good to show sympathy by changing your stance in the discourse, such as by reallocating private or shared attention, it’s not always true. In particular, many responses you implement could be exploited.
For example, say I’m ongoingly doing something bad, and whenever you try to talk to me about it, I “get upset”. In this case, I’m probably actually upset, probably for multiple reasons; and probably a deep full empathic understanding of the various things going on with me would reveal that, in some real ways, I have good reason to be upset / there’s something actually going wrong for me. But now say that your response to me “getting upset” is to allocate our shared attention away from the bad thing I’m doing. That may indeed be a suitable thing to do; e.g., maybe we can work together to understand what I’m upset about, and get the good versions of everything involved. However, hopefully it’s clear how this could be taken advantage of—sometimes even catastrophically, if, say, you are for some reason very committed to the sort of cooperativeness that keeps reallocating attention this way, even to the ongoing abjection of your original concern for the thing I was originally and am ongoingly doing bad. (This is a nonfictional though intentionally vague example.)
True (but obvious) taken literally. But if you also mean it’s good to show sympathy by changing your stance in the discourse, such as by reallocating private or shared attention, it’s not always true. In particular, many responses you implement could be exploited.
For example, say I’m ongoingly doing something bad, and whenever you try to talk to me about it, I “get upset”. In this case, I’m probably actually upset, probably for multiple reasons; and probably a deep full empathic understanding of the various things going on with me would reveal that, in some real ways, I have good reason to be upset / there’s something actually going wrong for me. But now say that your response to me “getting upset” is to allocate our shared attention away from the bad thing I’m doing. That may indeed be a suitable thing to do; e.g., maybe we can work together to understand what I’m upset about, and get the good versions of everything involved. However, hopefully it’s clear how this could be taken advantage of—sometimes even catastrophically, if, say, you are for some reason very committed to the sort of cooperativeness that keeps reallocating attention this way, even to the ongoing abjection of your original concern for the thing I was originally and am ongoingly doing bad. (This is a nonfictional though intentionally vague example.)
Nah, I agree that resources are limited and guarding against exploitative policies is sensible.