In my case, it was worth it. There may be a stubborn reluctance to “give in” or other lower level things that get in the way of believing the truth, but if at the top level she would really rather believe the truth, you’re probably fine. If you can’t get her to say in full honesty “I would rather believe the truth than made up ‘feel good’ stories”, you’re probably hosed.
My girlfriend started out as a creationist christian and is now pretty much atheist. Overall, she is much more reasonable and can make the right decision on the types of things she previously did not. She seems to be about as happy as before, and when she’s not she can recognize the cause so it’s not nearly as damaging. I’d call that a success so far.
In general, I have a pretty strict policy of calling each other on any BS. I attempt to get the point across in a nice way, but will persist until she understands even if it does make her upset in the short term. The one exception was when I found out that she believed in creationism. That was too big of a bite, so we left it as “agree to disagree”, though I made it obvious that I did not respect her belief. I never made an attempt to deconvert her, but it did happen on its own.
There’s probably a better way to do it that can make the same progress without ever upsetting the person, but in my experience it ended up being worth it to push through anyway.
In my case, it was worth it. There may be a stubborn reluctance to “give in” or other lower level things that get in the way of believing the truth, but if at the top level she would really rather believe the truth, you’re probably fine. If you can’t get her to say in full honesty “I would rather believe the truth than made up ‘feel good’ stories”, you’re probably hosed.
My girlfriend started out as a creationist christian and is now pretty much atheist. Overall, she is much more reasonable and can make the right decision on the types of things she previously did not. She seems to be about as happy as before, and when she’s not she can recognize the cause so it’s not nearly as damaging. I’d call that a success so far.
In general, I have a pretty strict policy of calling each other on any BS. I attempt to get the point across in a nice way, but will persist until she understands even if it does make her upset in the short term. The one exception was when I found out that she believed in creationism. That was too big of a bite, so we left it as “agree to disagree”, though I made it obvious that I did not respect her belief. I never made an attempt to deconvert her, but it did happen on its own.
There’s probably a better way to do it that can make the same progress without ever upsetting the person, but in my experience it ended up being worth it to push through anyway.