I’m reading this for the first time today. It’d be great if more biases were covered this way. The “illusion of transparency” one is eerily close to what I’ve thought so many times. Relatedly, sometimes I do succeed at communicating, but people don’t signal that they understand (or not in a way I recognize). Thus sometimes I only realize I’ve been understood after someone (politely) asks that I stop repeating myself, mirroring back to me what I had communicated. This is a little embarrassing, but also a relief—once I know I’ve been understood, I can finally let go.
I’m reading this for the first time today. It’d be great if more biases were covered this way. The “illusion of transparency” one is eerily close to what I’ve thought so many times. Relatedly, sometimes I do succeed at communicating, but people don’t signal that they understand (or not in a way I recognize). Thus sometimes I only realize I’ve been understood after someone (politely) asks that I stop repeating myself, mirroring back to me what I had communicated. This is a little embarrassing, but also a relief—once I know I’ve been understood, I can finally let go.