So the claim you are making is that the norm should be for people to explain
I’m not really making that claim. A person doesn’t have to do anything condemnable to be in a state of not deserving something. If I don’t pay the baker, I don’t deserve a bun. I am fine with not deserving a bun, as I have already eaten.
The baker shouldn’t feel like I am owed a bun.
Another metaphor is that the person who is beaten on the street by silent, masked assailants should not feel like they owe their oppressors an apology.
I’m not really making that claim. A person doesn’t have to do anything condemnable to be in a state of not deserving something. If I don’t pay the baker, I don’t deserve a bun. I am fine with not deserving a bun, as I have already eaten.
The baker shouldn’t feel like I am owed a bun.
Another metaphor is that the person who is beaten on the street by silent, masked assailants should not feel like they owe their oppressors an apology.