WRT flinches. There seems to be a general pattern across many forms of psychotherapy that goes something like this: The standard frame is a ‘fixing’ frame. Your mental phenomena react about as well to this as other people in your life do, not very well. Best practices with others also apply internally, namely: Assume positive intent, the patterns you observe are attempts to accomplish some positive goal. Seek to understand what goals those patterns are oriented towards. Ask about ways you might be able to help that process do a better job or get the resources it needs to get you the good thing it wants for you.
The fix it frame causes both people and mental phenomena to run away from you.
WRT flinches. There seems to be a general pattern across many forms of psychotherapy that goes something like this: The standard frame is a ‘fixing’ frame. Your mental phenomena react about as well to this as other people in your life do, not very well. Best practices with others also apply internally, namely: Assume positive intent, the patterns you observe are attempts to accomplish some positive goal. Seek to understand what goals those patterns are oriented towards. Ask about ways you might be able to help that process do a better job or get the resources it needs to get you the good thing it wants for you.
The fix it frame causes both people and mental phenomena to run away from you.