Your incredulity has been noted. With contempt. I’m allowed to want things.
But I do apologize for any personal offence I may have inadvertently caused.
Have you considered reacting to the need to apologize by ceasing to produce it? It can’t be very inadvertent. It looks awfully advertent, or at least not like an evitandum of any kind.
I am somewhat surprised that you chew Konkvistador out over this, whereas you react quite tolerantly to my repeated bewilderment that you want to live with humans from your uterus.
Of course you are. I just wanted to hear why. You are naturally under no obligation explicit or implicit to give reasons that apply generally or personally.
I’m dismayed that I have apparently offended you. Please accept a sincere apology. I genuinely didn’t realize the topic might create resentment here.
What does the outside view say about when during the course of a relationship it is wisest to get engaged (in terms of subsequent marital longevity/quality)? Data that doesn’t just turn up obvious correlations with religious groups who forbid divorce is especially useful.
I assumed from the wording of the above request for data that you weren’t seeking for congratulations or the like but information on the general desirability of the arrangement, and when it is most appropriate. I was simply trying to elicit what information and thoughts you’ve come up on your own so far because I too was interested in the question. And I too have a personal stake in it as well since I’ve had discussions on the topic with one of my partners.
Edit: To respond to the addition of this:
Have you considered reacting to the need to apologize by ceasing to produce it? It can’t be very inadvertent. It looks awfully advertent, or at least not like an evitandum of any kind.
I was apologizing because you where sending strong signals but I wasn’t sure what exactly I was doing wrong. I mean I could have cut off all further communication but that would have left me very confused.
I proceeded as I normally do in such circumstances, by apologizing for any inadvertent offence and asking for clarifications, that would hopefully let me figure out what exactly caused the negative response. If you note above, you see that I basically made a guess at what might have offended you and proceeded to apologize for that.
I do not consider you to be at fault for your initial comments; I fault you for subsequent failure to take a hint. Your apology is accepted.
I see nothing about the wording of my original comment that should have led you to conclude that I wanted information about the “general desirability of the arrangement”. I did want information about “when it was most appropriate”—in a purely temporal sense.
I see nothing about the wording of my original comment that should have led you to conclude that I wanted information about the “general desirability of the arrangement”. I did want information about “when it was most appropriate”—in a purely temporal sense.
Now that I’ve reread your question, I see that you where indeed.
If you’re referring to the other occasion when I asked for advice and people ignored all non-keywords I had uttered instead of answering my actual, specific question, yeah, I probably must get at least somewhat offended when that happens. I value my ability to react emotionally to my environment. I don’t get offended when I ask for advice and get advice that corresponds to what I asked for.
I wouldn’t have chosen the word “offended” to describe my emotional state in the first place, but I didn’t think going “I’m not offended!” would have been a very credible response; it never is.
Your incredulity has been noted. With contempt. I’m allowed to want things.
Have you considered reacting to the need to apologize by ceasing to produce it? It can’t be very inadvertent. It looks awfully advertent, or at least not like an evitandum of any kind.
I am somewhat surprised that you chew Konkvistador out over this, whereas you react quite tolerantly to my repeated bewilderment that you want to live with humans from your uterus.
You have earned social leeway, and I believe that if I told you to drop it, you would.
Of course you are. I just wanted to hear why. You are naturally under no obligation explicit or implicit to give reasons that apply generally or personally.
I’m dismayed that I have apparently offended you. Please accept a sincere apology. I genuinely didn’t realize the topic might create resentment here.
I assumed from the wording of the above request for data that you weren’t seeking for congratulations or the like but information on the general desirability of the arrangement, and when it is most appropriate. I was simply trying to elicit what information and thoughts you’ve come up on your own so far because I too was interested in the question. And I too have a personal stake in it as well since I’ve had discussions on the topic with one of my partners.
Edit: To respond to the addition of this:
I was apologizing because you where sending strong signals but I wasn’t sure what exactly I was doing wrong. I mean I could have cut off all further communication but that would have left me very confused.
I proceeded as I normally do in such circumstances, by apologizing for any inadvertent offence and asking for clarifications, that would hopefully let me figure out what exactly caused the negative response. If you note above, you see that I basically made a guess at what might have offended you and proceeded to apologize for that.
I do not consider you to be at fault for your initial comments; I fault you for subsequent failure to take a hint. Your apology is accepted.
I see nothing about the wording of my original comment that should have led you to conclude that I wanted information about the “general desirability of the arrangement”. I did want information about “when it was most appropriate”—in a purely temporal sense.
Now that I’ve reread your question, I see that you where indeed.
Must you get offended every time you ask for advice and get it?
If you’re referring to the other occasion when I asked for advice and people ignored all non-keywords I had uttered instead of answering my actual, specific question, yeah, I probably must get at least somewhat offended when that happens. I value my ability to react emotionally to my environment. I don’t get offended when I ask for advice and get advice that corresponds to what I asked for.
Might I suggest exasperation? It’s tastier and healthier than offense!
I wouldn’t have chosen the word “offended” to describe my emotional state in the first place, but I didn’t think going “I’m not offended!” would have been a very credible response; it never is.
And people are allowed to not want gays to marry. Should this also go unquestioned? People are allowed to want things!