I’m not trying to debate you, I’m trying to optimize my life. I want to reproduce with a partner who will stick around for decades, at least. I
Why do you need to marry someone to live with them for decades and raise children? Are millions of people living happily in such arrangements doing something wrong or sub-optimally? If you think different arrangements are better for different people, why do you think you are a particular kind of person?
If you have a compelling case for why my life would be better without marriage, I’d love to hear it.
Can we taboo the word “marriage”?
Is there any legal precedent that gives a never-married man better access to his children than a divorced man?
No. But neither do married men have much better chances of such an outcome.
But neither do married men have much better chances of such an outcome.
There is still a difference between “not much better” and “not better”. I do not know the exact number, but if contact with your children is an important part of your utility function, then even increasing the chance by say 5% is worth doing, and could justify the costs of marriage.
(Even if the family law is strongly biased against males, it may still be rational for males to seek marriage.)
Why do you need to marry someone to live with them for decades and raise children? Are millions of people living happily in such arrangements doing something wrong or sub-optimally? If you think different arrangements are better for different people, why do you think you are a particular kind of person?
Can we taboo the word “marriage”?
No. But neither do married men have much better chances of such an outcome.
There is still a difference between “not much better” and “not better”. I do not know the exact number, but if contact with your children is an important part of your utility function, then even increasing the chance by say 5% is worth doing, and could justify the costs of marriage.
(Even if the family law is strongly biased against males, it may still be rational for males to seek marriage.)