Yep. It took me decades to learn this. I am a natural cooperator, and I often end up surprised that many other people aren’t, and that my utility that I sacrificed for the benefit of the whole group is gone because of some other people infighting. “Help your group” must go together with “choose the right group”.
Yep. It took me decades to learn this. I am a natural cooperator, and I often end up surprised that many other people aren’t, and that my utility that I sacrificed for the benefit of the whole group is gone because of some other people infighting. “Help your group” must go together with “choose the right group”.
Yes, I learned this lesson the hard way as well.