I don’t think it was betrayal, I think it was skipping verbal steps, which left intent unclear.
If A had said “I promised to do X, is it OK now if I do Y instead?” There would presumably have been no confusion. Instead, they announced, before doing Y, their plan, leaving the permission request implicit. The point that “she needed A to acknowledge that he’d unilaterally changed an agreement” was critical to B, but I suspect A thought that stating the new plan did that implicitly.
For something to be a betrayal does not require knowing the intent of the person doing it, and is not necessarily modified if you do. I already brought up the fact that it would be perfectly fine if they had asked permission, it is in the not asking permission to alter the agreed upon course where the betrayal comes in. Saying ‘I will do x’ is not implicitly asking for permission at all, it is a statement of intent, that disregards entirely that there was even an agreement at all.
I don’t think it was betrayal, I think it was skipping verbal steps, which left intent unclear.
If A had said “I promised to do X, is it OK now if I do Y instead?” There would presumably have been no confusion. Instead, they announced, before doing Y, their plan, leaving the permission request implicit. The point that “she needed A to acknowledge that he’d unilaterally changed an agreement” was critical to B, but I suspect A thought that stating the new plan did that implicitly.
For something to be a betrayal does not require knowing the intent of the person doing it, and is not necessarily modified if you do. I already brought up the fact that it would be perfectly fine if they had asked permission, it is in the not asking permission to alter the agreed upon course where the betrayal comes in. Saying ‘I will do x’ is not implicitly asking for permission at all, it is a statement of intent, that disregards entirely that there was even an agreement at all.