Okay, I’ve read through the other responses and I think I understand what you’re asking for, but correct me if I’m wrong.
A technique I’ve found useful for noticing opportunities once I’ve decided on a goal is thinking and asking about the strategies that other people who have succeeded at the goal used, and seeing if any of them are possible from my situation. This obviously doesn’t work so well for goals sufficiently narrow or unique that no one has done them before, but that doesn’t seem to be what you’re talking about.
Social advancement: how do people who have a lot of friends and are highly respected make friends and instill respect? Romantic advancement: How did the people in stable, committed relationships (or who get all the one-night stands they want, whichever) meet each other and become close? Professional advancement: How did my boss (or mentor) get their position?
Edit: Essentially I’m saying the first step to noticing more opportunities is becoming more familiar with what an opportunity looks like.
This is useful, actually. I think I’ve been kind of doing that indirectly, but not with a direct conscious effort. It doesn’t do me much good right now, since I’m still completely isolated and don’t know of anyone who got out of a situation like mine, but I think it could still be helpful.
Then first, change your situation to NOT completely isolated.
If you’re in a town or city that’s easy, just go to a meetup of a society of some sort that sounds vaguely interesting. If you can’t find such a society, wonder from pub to coffee shop to restaurant, looking for any relevant posters.
Or just go online and look up a meetup website.
Looking for a general solution is all well and good, but you have a very specific problem. And so, rather than spending years working on a general solution while in the wrong environment, perhaps you’d be better off using the specific solution, and working on a general one later?
Okay, I’ve read through the other responses and I think I understand what you’re asking for, but correct me if I’m wrong.
A technique I’ve found useful for noticing opportunities once I’ve decided on a goal is thinking and asking about the strategies that other people who have succeeded at the goal used, and seeing if any of them are possible from my situation. This obviously doesn’t work so well for goals sufficiently narrow or unique that no one has done them before, but that doesn’t seem to be what you’re talking about.
Social advancement: how do people who have a lot of friends and are highly respected make friends and instill respect? Romantic advancement: How did the people in stable, committed relationships (or who get all the one-night stands they want, whichever) meet each other and become close? Professional advancement: How did my boss (or mentor) get their position?
Edit: Essentially I’m saying the first step to noticing more opportunities is becoming more familiar with what an opportunity looks like.
This is useful, actually. I think I’ve been kind of doing that indirectly, but not with a direct conscious effort. It doesn’t do me much good right now, since I’m still completely isolated and don’t know of anyone who got out of a situation like mine, but I think it could still be helpful.
Then first, change your situation to NOT completely isolated.
If you’re in a town or city that’s easy, just go to a meetup of a society of some sort that sounds vaguely interesting. If you can’t find such a society, wonder from pub to coffee shop to restaurant, looking for any relevant posters.
Or just go online and look up a meetup website.
Looking for a general solution is all well and good, but you have a very specific problem. And so, rather than spending years working on a general solution while in the wrong environment, perhaps you’d be better off using the specific solution, and working on a general one later?