If I’m understanding the original question properly, the issue is along the lines of the following situation: EphemeralNight finds emself sitting at home, thinking ‘I wish there was something fun I could do tonight. But I don’t know of anything. So how might I find something? I have no idea.’ It’s not that e’s running into akrasia on the path to doing X, it’s that e doesn’t have an X in the first place and doesn’t know how to find one.
This is still one step ahead of the problem I’m actually trying to solve (Ie. it’s on the level of answers to “What am I supposed to just go out and do?”) but advice on that level could be somewhat useful. However, what I was actually asking about in my original post are cognitive tools that will help me get better at answering that question myself.
Yeah, the big thing with specific solutions is that while they may be helpful, they don’t teach you a new way to think. (Also, what might be fun for one person could be boring or unpleasant for someone else. I don’t know whether you enjoy debating, or sports, or watching plays, etc. But I’m assuming you know what would be fun for you.)
In terms of why no one is getting at the root of the problem… for me at least, I’ve never thought about it consciously. School happened to me, work happened to me, and the few times I decided to spontaneously start a new activity (i.e. taekwondo) I just googled “taekwondo in Ottawa”, found a location, and showed up. If anything, my problem has always been noticing too many opportunities to do fun things and been upset that I couldn’t do all of them. So there may well be something that you do differently than I do, but since ‘noticing’ fun things to do happens below the level of my conscious awareness, trying to figure out the cognitive strategies involved takes a lot of work.
If I’m understanding the original question properly, the issue is along the lines of the following situation: EphemeralNight finds emself sitting at home, thinking ‘I wish there was something fun I could do tonight. But I don’t know of anything. So how might I find something? I have no idea.’ It’s not that e’s running into akrasia on the path to doing X, it’s that e doesn’t have an X in the first place and doesn’t know how to find one.
Useful answers will probably be along the lines of either ‘try meeetup.com/okcupid/your local LW meetup/etc’, or ’here’s how you find out about things like meetup.com/okcupid/LW meetups/etc’.
That’s what I thought, too, but the comment seemed to be asking for a general rather than a specific solution.
This is still one step ahead of the problem I’m actually trying to solve (Ie. it’s on the level of answers to “What am I supposed to just go out and do?”) but advice on that level could be somewhat useful. However, what I was actually asking about in my original post are cognitive tools that will help me get better at answering that question myself.
Yeah, the big thing with specific solutions is that while they may be helpful, they don’t teach you a new way to think. (Also, what might be fun for one person could be boring or unpleasant for someone else. I don’t know whether you enjoy debating, or sports, or watching plays, etc. But I’m assuming you know what would be fun for you.)
In terms of why no one is getting at the root of the problem… for me at least, I’ve never thought about it consciously. School happened to me, work happened to me, and the few times I decided to spontaneously start a new activity (i.e. taekwondo) I just googled “taekwondo in Ottawa”, found a location, and showed up. If anything, my problem has always been noticing too many opportunities to do fun things and been upset that I couldn’t do all of them. So there may well be something that you do differently than I do, but since ‘noticing’ fun things to do happens below the level of my conscious awareness, trying to figure out the cognitive strategies involved takes a lot of work.