I have a lot of friends who I met through fan mail—people contacting me to tell me they like something about my online footprint. My recommendation is to establish online correspondence for a while, then when they don’t send “leave me alone” signals like terse or perfunctory responses you can ask to hang out.
After a bit of random googling it seems there are a lot of results about ‘saying no to people who want to get coffee/pick your brain’ so it seems like reasonably successful people with an internet presence get a lot of these requests.
I imagine different successful people with internet presences have different intersections of request quantity and request tolerance. I don’t get people paying attention to me and wanting to hang out with me as often as I’d like yet so that’s probably biasing my recommendations.
I have a lot of friends who I met through fan mail—people contacting me to tell me they like something about my online footprint. My recommendation is to establish online correspondence for a while, then when they don’t send “leave me alone” signals like terse or perfunctory responses you can ask to hang out.
Thanks.
After a bit of random googling it seems there are a lot of results about ‘saying no to people who want to get coffee/pick your brain’ so it seems like reasonably successful people with an internet presence get a lot of these requests.
I imagine different successful people with internet presences have different intersections of request quantity and request tolerance. I don’t get people paying attention to me and wanting to hang out with me as often as I’d like yet so that’s probably biasing my recommendations.