Personally I pretty much exclusively use face to face conversation for social reasons, such as building rapport/relationships, fighting status and dominance battles, bonding through shared experience, checking in for updates on moods and desires, or setting up plans. So OP, when you say that you can’t talk to many people about the nature of reality, my reaction is, “Of course! You’re using the wrong medium.”
You may have heard before that communication is only X% verbal (what you say), while the rest is paraverbal (how you say it) and nonverbal (what your body is doing). I don’t have a source for X and I don’t know if it has been rigorously studied, but everything I have seen points to X being low, around 5-10%. This implies that for most people, intrapersonal communication is largely about things other than the words being said. If you aren’t picking up on all of what’s being said through these channels, you’re likely amplifying the low bandwidth verbal information. That you’re confused why others are neglecting what’s being said verbally and that others are confused why you’re neglecting what’s being said paraverbally and nonverbally are two sides of the same coin.
Better mediums for the purpose of discussing reality, I believe, are textual (to provide record and reference, and to remove intrapersonal subtexts), and slow moving (to allow for parties to think through and clearly articulate their thoughts). Examples are academic papers and books, emails, and blogs, though these all also have drawbacks. I don’t think we have an ideal medium for discussing the nature of reality yet.
I agree that Option 3 is correct here.
Personally I pretty much exclusively use face to face conversation for social reasons, such as building rapport/relationships, fighting status and dominance battles, bonding through shared experience, checking in for updates on moods and desires, or setting up plans. So OP, when you say that you can’t talk to many people about the nature of reality, my reaction is, “Of course! You’re using the wrong medium.”
You may have heard before that communication is only X% verbal (what you say), while the rest is paraverbal (how you say it) and nonverbal (what your body is doing). I don’t have a source for X and I don’t know if it has been rigorously studied, but everything I have seen points to X being low, around 5-10%. This implies that for most people, intrapersonal communication is largely about things other than the words being said. If you aren’t picking up on all of what’s being said through these channels, you’re likely amplifying the low bandwidth verbal information. That you’re confused why others are neglecting what’s being said verbally and that others are confused why you’re neglecting what’s being said paraverbally and nonverbally are two sides of the same coin.
Better mediums for the purpose of discussing reality, I believe, are textual (to provide record and reference, and to remove intrapersonal subtexts), and slow moving (to allow for parties to think through and clearly articulate their thoughts). Examples are academic papers and books, emails, and blogs, though these all also have drawbacks. I don’t think we have an ideal medium for discussing the nature of reality yet.