3) “I’m sorry about how I reacted; even though I know on the level of rational probabilities that it’s extremely unlikely you meant to hurt my feelings, I’m still working on getting my brain to alieve that and not just believe it.”
Is lack of malice always enough?
What’s a rationalist way of handling repeated inattention?
If there are no signs of improvement despite communicating dissatisfaction with this, update your beliefs on how important you really are to them (also the chances that they will leave you when someone more exciting comes along), reflect on how much this matters to your own satisfaction with the relationship & then take a continue or quit decision?
Is lack of malice always enough?
What’s a rationalist way of handling repeated inattention?
The rationalist way of handling X is whatever produces the best outcome overall.
If there are no signs of improvement despite communicating dissatisfaction with this, update your beliefs on how important you really are to them (also the chances that they will leave you when someone more exciting comes along), reflect on how much this matters to your own satisfaction with the relationship & then take a continue or quit decision?