This behavioral training method using positive and negative reinforcement, is something that I would recommend you use with animals and children before they can speak and reason. Our brains do this type of direct training, through our built in pleasure and pain feedback. Once the child is able to talk and reason, then it isn’t very effective at all especially with complex choices like not doing drugs with friends when they are away from the parents. You are effectively trying to enforce your ideas and beliefs on to child’s and taking away their own autonomy and desire to make their own decisions.
The most effective way to persuade a child about your point of view is (at least my children) to give them the information that is available, and if possible to show then the possible outcomes of their choices, good and bad. Once I arm my children with the appropriate information, then generally make the correct choices, of their own choosing. This is a much more powerful method and will be maintained when they are on their own. If they do not, they are already aware of what the consequences will be, and that is a powerful lesson that they will not forget. The aim is to develop a thinking and considerate person, that can make the correct decisions for their own lives, on their own.
This behavioral training method using positive and negative reinforcement, is something that I would recommend you use with animals and children before they can speak and reason. Our brains do this type of direct training, through our built in pleasure and pain feedback. Once the child is able to talk and reason, then it isn’t very effective at all especially with complex choices like not doing drugs with friends when they are away from the parents. You are effectively trying to enforce your ideas and beliefs on to child’s and taking away their own autonomy and desire to make their own decisions.
The most effective way to persuade a child about your point of view is (at least my children) to give them the information that is available, and if possible to show then the possible outcomes of their choices, good and bad. Once I arm my children with the appropriate information, then generally make the correct choices, of their own choosing. This is a much more powerful method and will be maintained when they are on their own. If they do not, they are already aware of what the consequences will be, and that is a powerful lesson that they will not forget. The aim is to develop a thinking and considerate person, that can make the correct decisions for their own lives, on their own.