I’d like to note the irony that I found this interesting and want to comment on it, but don’t want to drill down on anything you don’t agree is an important point :)
Really though, I experienced this as a kid when I had a larger conversational memory “stack” than my friends. There tend to be more topics “in play” for me than for my conversational partners, which made it seem like I was reluctant to let the conversation move forwards.
As time went on, I had to learn how to let things go more, which helped me out a lot when I started having larger conversations, as your point will almost certainly drift by before you get a chance to share it.
What you describe is letting go of certain topics that you would like to be discussed further, and I think that’s extremely valuable.
The other kind of letting go is letting go of the urge to nitpick and apply excessive nuance to every little point no matter how relevant to a context.
I’d like to note the irony that I found this interesting and want to comment on it, but don’t want to drill down on anything you don’t agree is an important point :)
Really though, I experienced this as a kid when I had a larger conversational memory “stack” than my friends. There tend to be more topics “in play” for me than for my conversational partners, which made it seem like I was reluctant to let the conversation move forwards.
As time went on, I had to learn how to let things go more, which helped me out a lot when I started having larger conversations, as your point will almost certainly drift by before you get a chance to share it.
Yes! Letting go is key to conversational skill.
What you describe is letting go of certain topics that you would like to be discussed further, and I think that’s extremely valuable.
The other kind of letting go is letting go of the urge to nitpick and apply excessive nuance to every little point no matter how relevant to a context.