I think that’s not a great characterization of what happened. IIRC, Owen was not the person who “flew her out” (she was flown out for an unrelated job offer), he did not “surprise her” in the relevant sense (he was asked whether he could host her by other people), and they were in-general pretty close and had talked about adjacent stuff already.
Overall, my sense is Owen did mess up with a bunch of this stuff, but I don’t think it makes sense for that to follow him around to all random blogposts he writes. In-general posts on LW are pseudonymous and mostly (though not fully) judged on their content and local validity (though of course the expertise of the author does matter). I prefer the world where Owen writes under his normal name, but my guess is if this kind of stuff gets dug up on each post he might just post under a pseudonym, which I think would be his full right, but overall seems like it makes the world worse by both of our lights.
From Owen’s post: “I’d suggested her as a candidate earlier in the application process, but was not part of their decision-making process”. “Unrelated job offer” is a bad description of that. I don’t see the claim about hosting in the post, but that would a little soften things if true.
Anyway, it’s not a random blog post! If it was a post about how many species of flowers there are or whatever, then my comment wouldn’t make sense. But it’s not random! It’s literally about acting wholesomely! His very unwholesome behavior is very relevant to a post he’s making to the forum of record about what wholesome behavior is!
I think that’s not a great characterization of what happened. IIRC, Owen was not the person who “flew her out” (she was flown out for an unrelated job offer), he did not “surprise her” in the relevant sense (he was asked whether he could host her by other people), and they were in-general pretty close and had talked about adjacent stuff already.
Overall, my sense is Owen did mess up with a bunch of this stuff, but I don’t think it makes sense for that to follow him around to all random blogposts he writes. In-general posts on LW are pseudonymous and mostly (though not fully) judged on their content and local validity (though of course the expertise of the author does matter). I prefer the world where Owen writes under his normal name, but my guess is if this kind of stuff gets dug up on each post he might just post under a pseudonym, which I think would be his full right, but overall seems like it makes the world worse by both of our lights.
From Owen’s post: “I’d suggested her as a candidate earlier in the application process, but was not part of their decision-making process”. “Unrelated job offer” is a bad description of that. I don’t see the claim about hosting in the post, but that would a little soften things if true.
Anyway, it’s not a random blog post! If it was a post about how many species of flowers there are or whatever, then my comment wouldn’t make sense. But it’s not random! It’s literally about acting wholesomely! His very unwholesome behavior is very relevant to a post he’s making to the forum of record about what wholesome behavior is!