Most people who are focused only on understanding sexual/romantic dynamics well enough to get a girlfriend they’re happy about being with will dip their feet into the community for a few months or a couple years and then disappear. It’s the perpetual failures, and more importantly the people with a political agenda, who stay.
Well, you’re certainly right that the people who stay in the community are likely unrepresentative of the average. But there are many people who stay because they’re seeking to be PUA wingmen/coaches (either amateur or paid-for), or simply to improve their outcomes and their understanding of seduction- and social dynamics. To some extent, this describes 2007!Roissy and 2007!RooshV too, but even then they were quite controversial and ‘political’, in a way that many others in the community would have found distasteful and unhelpful.
The flip side of it though is that if the ‘heavyweight’ political folks are right about what they infer from PUA micro dynamics (I’m far from convinced about this, but we can assume it for the sake of this argument) there might not even be much need for further work on the micro side. Overall, PUA has seen remarkably little change since 2007, though there’s definitely been a welcome emphasis on ‘inner game’ and ‘being a natural’ as being the next level, and low-level tactics and tricks as useful training wheels that can eventually be dispensed with to a large extent.
But there are many people who stay because they’re seeking to be PUA wingmen/coaches (either amateur or paid-for), or simply to improve their outcomes and their understanding of seduction- and social dynamics.
Good point.
The flip side of it though is that if the ‘heavyweight’ political folks are right about what they infer from PUA micro dynamics (I’m far from convinced about this, but we can assume it for the sake of this argument) there might not even be much need for further work on the micro side.
I don’t see the connection. Even if the coordination system of society is falling apart, that doesn’t mean that men can’t enjoy the fruits of PUA ability in the short term. Why would Roissy Macro being correct not leave room for further refinement in the practical art of seduction?
Overall, PUA has seen remarkably little change since 2007, though there’s definitely been a welcome emphasis on ‘inner game’ and ‘being a natural’ as being the next level, and low-level tactics and tricks as useful training wheels that can eventually be dispensed with to a large extent.
In the US that might be true, when looking at the people I know in Germany who make money in that industry, a lot of them say that the 2007 PUA stuff creates more harm than good.
Instead of getting told to force myself to do approaches that make me feel unconfortable I get told that it would be good for me to do more non-violent communication style expressions of my own desires.
But even in the US there are people who speak at PUA conferences and take the label of PUA as an insult and claim there are there to get the people away from PUA style thinking.
Instead of getting told to force myself to do approaches that make me feel unconfortable I get told that it would be good for me to do more non-violent communication style expressions of my own desires.
So how does that actually help with seducing girls? Because that sounds like it simply decayed into yet another “generic self-help movement”.
The person in question does write articles about how to get girls to have sex in the bathroom of a nightclub and make his money with the blog hosting those articles.
That was the specific personal advice he gave me at the end of spending 10 days at a retreat in nature together.
Because that sounds like it simply decayed into yet another “generic self-help movement”.
Actually changing the substance through “generic self-help” seems to work better for the goal of getting woman than focusing on learning tactics for getting woman.
The idea of learning a bunch of techniques to change woman into liking you instead of working to change yourself doesn’t seem to be successful.
That was the specific personal advice he gave me at the end of spending 10 days at a retreat in nature together.
Makes sense then. He got to know you quite well, and realized that a ‘direct’ style would work best for you.
The idea of learning a bunch of techniques to change woman into liking you instead of working to change yourself doesn’t seem to be successful.
That’s not really what’s happening, though. The techniques are there to change the image you’re presenting and ensure that it reflects you at your best and most attractive. That’s why ‘the inner game’ (changing yourself) and ‘the outer game’ (changing your social image/approach) are largely seen as complementary and mutually reinforcing.
Well, you’re certainly right that the people who stay in the community are likely unrepresentative of the average. But there are many people who stay because they’re seeking to be PUA wingmen/coaches (either amateur or paid-for), or simply to improve their outcomes and their understanding of seduction- and social dynamics. To some extent, this describes 2007!Roissy and 2007!RooshV too, but even then they were quite controversial and ‘political’, in a way that many others in the community would have found distasteful and unhelpful.
The flip side of it though is that if the ‘heavyweight’ political folks are right about what they infer from PUA micro dynamics (I’m far from convinced about this, but we can assume it for the sake of this argument) there might not even be much need for further work on the micro side. Overall, PUA has seen remarkably little change since 2007, though there’s definitely been a welcome emphasis on ‘inner game’ and ‘being a natural’ as being the next level, and low-level tactics and tricks as useful training wheels that can eventually be dispensed with to a large extent.
Good point.
I don’t see the connection. Even if the coordination system of society is falling apart, that doesn’t mean that men can’t enjoy the fruits of PUA ability in the short term. Why would Roissy Macro being correct not leave room for further refinement in the practical art of seduction?
In the US that might be true, when looking at the people I know in Germany who make money in that industry, a lot of them say that the 2007 PUA stuff creates more harm than good.
Instead of getting told to force myself to do approaches that make me feel unconfortable I get told that it would be good for me to do more non-violent communication style expressions of my own desires.
But even in the US there are people who speak at PUA conferences and take the label of PUA as an insult and claim there are there to get the people away from PUA style thinking.
So how does that actually help with seducing girls? Because that sounds like it simply decayed into yet another “generic self-help movement”.
The person in question does write articles about how to get girls to have sex in the bathroom of a nightclub and make his money with the blog hosting those articles. That was the specific personal advice he gave me at the end of spending 10 days at a retreat in nature together.
Actually changing the substance through “generic self-help” seems to work better for the goal of getting woman than focusing on learning tactics for getting woman.
The idea of learning a bunch of techniques to change woman into liking you instead of working to change yourself doesn’t seem to be successful.
Makes sense then. He got to know you quite well, and realized that a ‘direct’ style would work best for you.
That’s not really what’s happening, though. The techniques are there to change the image you’re presenting and ensure that it reflects you at your best and most attractive. That’s why ‘the inner game’ (changing yourself) and ‘the outer game’ (changing your social image/approach) are largely seen as complementary and mutually reinforcing.