I’m wondering how one offers a way out—suppose that one partner is much more enthusiastic about EA than the other. The couple tries the combination of reasonably priced fun and EA one year, and the less enthusiastic one doesn’t feel it’s satisfying. Can that partner say “let’s not do it that way next year?” without feeling shamed for it?
Nancy, sure, I think it’s quite doable. Saying something like “that experience wasn’t satisfying/romantic for me” is quite appropriate. This is why my wife and I, when we first did it, framed it in the form of an experiment, and having that framing is important, I think.
I’m wondering how one offers a way out—suppose that one partner is much more enthusiastic about EA than the other. The couple tries the combination of reasonably priced fun and EA one year, and the less enthusiastic one doesn’t feel it’s satisfying. Can that partner say “let’s not do it that way next year?” without feeling shamed for it?
Nancy, sure, I think it’s quite doable. Saying something like “that experience wasn’t satisfying/romantic for me” is quite appropriate. This is why my wife and I, when we first did it, framed it in the form of an experiment, and having that framing is important, I think.