Easiest first: I introduced “dark arts” as an example of a label that distracted more than it added. It wasn’t meant as a reference to or description of your posts.
In your previous comment, you asked the wrong question (‘were they attempting to persuade?’) and then managed to come up with the wrong answer (‘nope’). Both of those were disappointing (the first more so) especially in light of your desire to spread your experience.
The persuasion was “please respond to me nicely.” It was richly rewarded: 20 welcoming responses (when most newbies get 0 or 1), and the first unwelcoming response got downvoted quickly.
The right question is, what are our values, here? When someone expressing a desire to be welcomed uses influence techniques that further that end, should we flip the table over in disgust that they tried to influence us? That’ll show them that we’re savvy customers that can’t be trolled! Or should we welcome them because we want the community to grow? That’ll show them that we’re worth sticking around.
I will note that I upvoted this post, because in the version that I saw it started off with “Some of your other posts are intelligent” and then showed many of the tricks AspiringKnitter’s post used. Where I disagree with you is the implication that we should have rebuked her for trolling. The potential upsides of treating someone with charity and warmth is far greater than the potential downsides of humoring a troll for a few posts.
Easiest first: I introduced “dark arts” as an example of a label that distracted more than it added. It wasn’t meant as a reference to or description of your posts.
In your previous comment, you asked the wrong question (‘were they attempting to persuade?’) and then managed to come up with the wrong answer (‘nope’). Both of those were disappointing (the first more so) especially in light of your desire to spread your experience.
The persuasion was “please respond to me nicely.” It was richly rewarded: 20 welcoming responses (when most newbies get 0 or 1), and the first unwelcoming response got downvoted quickly.
The right question is, what are our values, here? When someone expressing a desire to be welcomed uses influence techniques that further that end, should we flip the table over in disgust that they tried to influence us? That’ll show them that we’re savvy customers that can’t be trolled! Or should we welcome them because we want the community to grow? That’ll show them that we’re worth sticking around.
I will note that I upvoted this post, because in the version that I saw it started off with “Some of your other posts are intelligent” and then showed many of the tricks AspiringKnitter’s post used. Where I disagree with you is the implication that we should have rebuked her for trolling. The potential upsides of treating someone with charity and warmth is far greater than the potential downsides of humoring a troll for a few posts.
Ok. That makes sense.