In my opinion, what was going on was that he wasn’t sure what the boundaries that he needed to not cross were, and wasn’t sure he could regulate his behavior, so he was trying to avoid further punishment by saying he was helpless and suffering enough already.
This is very enlightening. I’m going to probe this by modulating my response to it, and see what I find. Thanks; one karma point feels insufficent.
I think a post on this (?and related) would be much apprecaited if you and/or someone with similar experience could put one together.
Since then, he’s apologized in a way which I think means he understands the issues and will do better.
I fear you lost me agian. What is this evidence for?
I may write something up when I’m more sure that I’m right and have resolved more of my difficulties. At this point, I’ve toned down a lot of the self-hatred, but there’s an underlying difficulty with doing much of anything that’s still a serious problem for me.
That last sentence was mostly included because I imagined people wanting to know what happened next. However, it’s also evidence that what I was asking of him wasn’t as impossible as he initially thought it was.
This is very enlightening. I’m going to probe this by modulating my response to it, and see what I find. Thanks; one karma point feels insufficent.
I think a post on this (?and related) would be much apprecaited if you and/or someone with similar experience could put one together.
I fear you lost me agian. What is this evidence for?
I may write something up when I’m more sure that I’m right and have resolved more of my difficulties. At this point, I’ve toned down a lot of the self-hatred, but there’s an underlying difficulty with doing much of anything that’s still a serious problem for me.
That last sentence was mostly included because I imagined people wanting to know what happened next. However, it’s also evidence that what I was asking of him wasn’t as impossible as he initially thought it was.