Don’t punish yourself or others for taking time to think before responding.
If you were a kid in school who was rewarded for being quick with the answers, taking time and letting others take time is a habit that takes some training.
To express it at more length:
Don’t press yourself or others to have immediate perfect articulations of what they know.
If people are only respected if they speak immediately, the only thoughts that will be spoken are cached thoughts.
Be comfortable saying things like “I think I shouldn’t agree or disagree right away,” or “I’ll need to take some time to think through what my real opinion is on that point,” or “I didn’t quite say what I really meant earlier.” Support others who say those things.
Believe that the value of a person’s thoughts is not always the same as their speed of response.
Create a favorable environment for both you and others to figure out what they really think, notice, and remember, as opposed to what they’re able to articulate in the heat of a single conversation.
Don’t punish yourself or others for taking time to think before responding.
If you were a kid in school who was rewarded for being quick with the answers, taking time and letting others take time is a habit that takes some training.
To express it at more length:
Don’t press yourself or others to have immediate perfect articulations of what they know.
If people are only respected if they speak immediately, the only thoughts that will be spoken are cached thoughts.
Be comfortable saying things like “I think I shouldn’t agree or disagree right away,” or “I’ll need to take some time to think through what my real opinion is on that point,” or “I didn’t quite say what I really meant earlier.” Support others who say those things.
Believe that the value of a person’s thoughts is not always the same as their speed of response.
Create a favorable environment for both you and others to figure out what they really think, notice, and remember, as opposed to what they’re able to articulate in the heat of a single conversation.
No, it is not. Leaving a line of retreat is about imagining possible worlds where one of your beliefs is false.
Oops. Yah. It’s related, in the sense of “lower the pressure to insist that you’re right”, but it’s not the same. Fixed.