It’s particularly annoying when I come up with a comment to something that’s being said, but by the time I’m able to say anything the conversation has shifted to something else entirely. This happening once or twice wouldn’t be an issue, but half a dozen times during the same conversation starts to get frustrating.
I may be completely wrong, but this suggests the sort of conversation where the point is displaying your quick wits and facility with small talk, and keeping up with the flow is most of the point. Is this with one particular person, one particular social group or something that you find happens lots in many situations?
In that case it sounds like you need to be faster at keeping up with the flow and not worrying too much about your input. The display of social wit is itself the point of quite a lot of conversations, including ones that one would assume were about the content. As usual with humans, everything is tribal politics.
I may be completely wrong, but this suggests the sort of conversation where the point is displaying your quick wits and facility with small talk, and keeping up with the flow is most of the point. Is this with one particular person, one particular social group or something that you find happens lots in many situations?
Happens lots in many situations.
Does booze help?
Interesting question. I’m so rarely in a group conversation situation involving drinking that I can’t tell.
In that case it sounds like you need to be faster at keeping up with the flow and not worrying too much about your input. The display of social wit is itself the point of quite a lot of conversations, including ones that one would assume were about the content. As usual with humans, everything is tribal politics.
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