S1 relates to a topic on which many have strong normative feelings; S2 does not. Many of the people I interact with behave such that I have a strong prior for S1 being intended normatively rather than descriptively, so I’d assume that they intended S1 normatively (just because that assumption is very likely to be correct given past experience with my social circles). Might not be universally true though—this could just be an oddity of my social circles.
I’d expect you to know that the assumption in my first paragraph exists, so I pattern-match failing to initially clarify your intent as someone trying to make a high-status play (of the sort unclear statement->assumption->implied “gotcha! you made a bad assumption”). This causes me to anticipate your future intent regarding the conversation to be gaining status, so I don’t expect your future input to be interesting and would likely abandon the convo.
I’ve tried to introspect and spell out an estimate of why I might feel as I do, but the general progression in my second paragraph manifests as a feeling of annoyance->dismissal.
S1 relates to a topic on which many have strong normative feelings; S2 does not.
OK, so the issue is the social expectations about whether the issue is controversial and whether one is expected to have a normative attitude towards it? And in such a case, all statements will be interpreted as normative unless there are explicit disclaimers to the contrary?
I’d expect you to know that the assumption in my first paragraph exists
No, not really. I rarely speak normatively and in such cases I’m explicit about it. Typically I make descriptive observations, possibly with a variety of connotations and implications, but they are almost never of the “so you should believe/do X” kind. Normally they are of the “this is complicated, are you aware of this trade-off and that internal inconsistency?” kind.
I do set gotcha traps on occasion, but the sense of fair play usually makes me point them out beforehand. People still fall into them, anyway :-D
OK, so the issue is the social expectations about whether the issue is controversial and whether one is expected to have a normative attitude towards it? And in such a case, all statements will be interpreted as normative unless there are explicit disclaimers to the contrary?
For convenience, calling this Statement 1 (S1):
and calling this Statement 2 (S2):
S1 relates to a topic on which many have strong normative feelings; S2 does not. Many of the people I interact with behave such that I have a strong prior for S1 being intended normatively rather than descriptively, so I’d assume that they intended S1 normatively (just because that assumption is very likely to be correct given past experience with my social circles). Might not be universally true though—this could just be an oddity of my social circles.
I’d expect you to know that the assumption in my first paragraph exists, so I pattern-match failing to initially clarify your intent as someone trying to make a high-status play (of the sort unclear statement->assumption->implied “gotcha! you made a bad assumption”). This causes me to anticipate your future intent regarding the conversation to be gaining status, so I don’t expect your future input to be interesting and would likely abandon the convo.
I’ve tried to introspect and spell out an estimate of why I might feel as I do, but the general progression in my second paragraph manifests as a feeling of annoyance->dismissal.
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OK, so the issue is the social expectations about whether the issue is controversial and whether one is expected to have a normative attitude towards it? And in such a case, all statements will be interpreted as normative unless there are explicit disclaimers to the contrary?
No, not really. I rarely speak normatively and in such cases I’m explicit about it. Typically I make descriptive observations, possibly with a variety of connotations and implications, but they are almost never of the “so you should believe/do X” kind. Normally they are of the “this is complicated, are you aware of this trade-off and that internal inconsistency?” kind.
I do set gotcha traps on occasion, but the sense of fair play usually makes me point them out beforehand. People still fall into them, anyway :-D
Pretty much.