Maybe it would help if you realized that most people most of the time are not interested in being explicitly rational. They’re focused on something else: often they’re focused on building relationships, or getting a task done, or enjoying themselves. Maybe you could try focusing on those things too, especially the relationship-building bit, instead of choosing between “tearing apart” or ignoring what they say.
Also, I don’t know how old you are, but I’ve noticed that the people I interact with have gotten more congenial over time. As a child/teen/college student, many of my interactions were with nonchosen family or classmates. Now most of my interactions are with chosen family, friends, or workmates filtered to be more like me.
Oh, and since you mention being annoyed by “experts” on the radio, maybe...don’t listen to the radio or other media. You probably don’t need to do that, you’re not getting any relationship-building benefits out of it, and it’s annoying you.
Maybe it would help if you realized that most people most of the time are not interested in being explicitly rational.
I’m afraid that’s the main reason I’m getting angry at them, the utter lack of trying at being intelligent when they have to choose what to do or believe.
I never get angry at people for enjoying something stupid, or felt like they should treat each other are robots, or because they just follow (non evil) instructions, that I can understand.
I get angry only when it involves something where they really, really should try to get it right, and they don’t even have excuses like being under stress or pressure, and they still don’t try even just a little.
Though, now that I spell it out in more details, I realise (well, more remember, I already knew that) that people could focus on those other aspects you mention even when they shouldn’t.
This was helpful, I hadn’t noticed that I needed a more complex model of “being dumb” both to model people and to not get angry at them.
Unfortunately I had already selected what I’m exposed to as relations and media as much as I could a while ago, it wouldn’t be easy to make a second selection.
Maybe it would help if you realized that most people most of the time are not interested in being explicitly rational. They’re focused on something else: often they’re focused on building relationships, or getting a task done, or enjoying themselves. Maybe you could try focusing on those things too, especially the relationship-building bit, instead of choosing between “tearing apart” or ignoring what they say.
Also, I don’t know how old you are, but I’ve noticed that the people I interact with have gotten more congenial over time. As a child/teen/college student, many of my interactions were with nonchosen family or classmates. Now most of my interactions are with chosen family, friends, or workmates filtered to be more like me.
Oh, and since you mention being annoyed by “experts” on the radio, maybe...don’t listen to the radio or other media. You probably don’t need to do that, you’re not getting any relationship-building benefits out of it, and it’s annoying you.
I’m afraid that’s the main reason I’m getting angry at them, the utter lack of trying at being intelligent when they have to choose what to do or believe.
I never get angry at people for enjoying something stupid, or felt like they should treat each other are robots, or because they just follow (non evil) instructions, that I can understand.
I get angry only when it involves something where they really, really should try to get it right, and they don’t even have excuses like being under stress or pressure, and they still don’t try even just a little.
Though, now that I spell it out in more details, I realise (well, more remember, I already knew that) that people could focus on those other aspects you mention even when they shouldn’t.
This was helpful, I hadn’t noticed that I needed a more complex model of “being dumb” both to model people and to not get angry at them.
Unfortunately I had already selected what I’m exposed to as relations and media as much as I could a while ago, it wouldn’t be easy to make a second selection.