Also worth noting that: A. I am not “your” problem B. I didn’t necessarily consent to your concerns C. I didn’t necessarily sign up to need to placate your concerns either. You having emotions upsetness isn’t necessarily my problem but I’m doing a kindness here by responding. I recognise this very bluntly these days. (emotions, El, asking, giving, needs, etc.)
I am not OP, but:
Your response seems to assume that the OP’s concerns are about you. With respect, this does not seem like a justified assumption, given the nature (pseudonymous and public, instead of direct and personal) of the OP’s expression of concern.
An analogy to illustrate my point:
Carol: Lately, a bunch of folks in our community have been going around and keying people’s cars. Sometimes they also spray-paint obscene words on the car.
Dave: I am one of the people you’re talking about, and I am not your problem! I didn’t consent to your concern. You being upset over me keying and spray-painting people’s cars is not my problem, and I am not responsible for placating your concern about this.
An odd response, on Dave’s part, no? Certainly, there is a sense in which Carol, out of concern for Dave, is alarmed that Dave would behave in this way; and she may think that Dave would be better off if he discontinued this behavior. But that can hardly be called the primary motivation behind Carol’s expression of concern.
The main problem that concerns Carol is the effects that Dave’s actions have other than on Dave himself.
With respect, aside from being part of the bay area geography. This post is about me, as a person, exploring Buddhism and doing weird woo and mystical things.
Equally your response is an example of what you seem to be complaining about. Difference is that I responded to the central post. You are dragging me into a distraction.
I am not OP, but:
Your response seems to assume that the OP’s concerns are about you. With respect, this does not seem like a justified assumption, given the nature (pseudonymous and public, instead of direct and personal) of the OP’s expression of concern.
An analogy to illustrate my point:
Carol: Lately, a bunch of folks in our community have been going around and keying people’s cars. Sometimes they also spray-paint obscene words on the car.
Dave: I am one of the people you’re talking about, and I am not your problem! I didn’t consent to your concern. You being upset over me keying and spray-painting people’s cars is not my problem, and I am not responsible for placating your concern about this.
An odd response, on Dave’s part, no? Certainly, there is a sense in which Carol, out of concern for Dave, is alarmed that Dave would behave in this way; and she may think that Dave would be better off if he discontinued this behavior. But that can hardly be called the primary motivation behind Carol’s expression of concern.
The main problem that concerns Carol is the effects that Dave’s actions have other than on Dave himself.
With respect, aside from being part of the bay area geography. This post is about me, as a person, exploring Buddhism and doing weird woo and mystical things.
Equally your response is an example of what you seem to be complaining about. Difference is that I responded to the central post. You are dragging me into a distraction.