As ideally, you, along with the vast majority of potential readers, should become less emotionally reactive over time to any real or perceived insults, slights, etc...
If it’s the heat of the moment talking, that’s fine, but letting thoughts of payback, revenge, etc., linger on for days afterwards likely will not lead to any positive outcome.
I have had these thoughts many times. I would berate myself for letting it get on my nerves so much. It was just an hour-and-a-half chat. But I don’t think it’s a matter of “letting” thoughts occur, or not. Certain situations are damaging to certain people, and this situation isn’t a matter of whether people are encouraged to be damaged or not (I certainly had no expectation of writing about this, back in July–October 2022.)
I upvoted for effort because it’s clear you put in quite a bit of effort in writing this comment, but skipped expressing agreement or disagreement.
I had thought of several possible responses, and it is worthy of a substantial response, but since it’s not my role to be the adjudicator or corrector of LW users, I’ll pose you this question:
Consider, is it possible for him to take offence in return and then retaliate via some mean(s)? If that does occur, what’s the range of likely outcomes?
(Note that I moved most of the original comment and plan to put it elsewhere in the thread.)
Consider, is it possible for him to take offence in return and then retaliate via some mean(s)? If that does occur, what’s the range of likely outcomes?
I don’t follow. I’m not going to behave differently in the face of any possible retaliation, nor do I in fact expect Nate to retaliate in an inappropriate manner. So I’m not worried about this?
I have had these thoughts many times. I would berate myself for letting it get on my nerves so much. It was just an hour-and-a-half chat. But I don’t think it’s a matter of “letting” thoughts occur, or not. Certain situations are damaging to certain people, and this situation isn’t a matter of whether people are encouraged to be damaged or not (I certainly had no expectation of writing about this, back in July–October 2022.)
EDIT: Moving another part elsewhere.
I upvoted for effort because it’s clear you put in quite a bit of effort in writing this comment, but skipped expressing agreement or disagreement.
I had thought of several possible responses, and it is worthy of a substantial response, but since it’s not my role to be the adjudicator or corrector of LW users, I’ll pose you this question:
Consider, is it possible for him to take offence in return and then retaliate via some mean(s)? If that does occur, what’s the range of likely outcomes?
(Note that I moved most of the original comment and plan to put it elsewhere in the thread.)
I don’t follow. I’m not going to behave differently in the face of any possible retaliation, nor do I in fact expect Nate to retaliate in an inappropriate manner. So I’m not worried about this?