If PUA coaches and writers can make a living with this message, perhaps their advice to men based on this traditional understanding of women has some validity after all.
There are a lot of quick success schemes sold with the same marketing that PUA products are sold. The fact that people are willing to pay money for a dream of quick success doesn’t mean that they can deliver on the promise.
PUA is a quite complex topic.
Male anxiety is an issue, and I don’t think that an expensive 3 to 4 day bootcamp normally fixes it. Neither does watching a 24 DVD set sold for 499$.
If I could either send a 18 year old to a tantra seminar or to a PUA seminar, I’m not sure that the PUA seminar is the one that gives the higher return as far as improving his success with the opposite sex.
And I feel some sympathy for this view of women because to me women seem to have defective agency relative to men.
The fact that you believe that might be the problem and illustrate lack of ability of dealing with women.
Male anxiety is an issue, and I don’t think that an expensive 3 to 4 day bootcamp normally fixes it. Neither does watching a 24 DVD set sold for 499$.
Irrationality is an issue, and I don’t think that reading the Sequences normally fixes it. Neither does a 3-day rationality seminar for $3900.
Still, for some people it’s a good option.
If I could either send a 18 year old to a tantra seminar or to a PUA seminar, I’m not sure that the PUA seminar is the one that gives the higher return as far as improving his success with the opposite sex.
I would expect different things working for different people.
The interesting thing is that the tantra seminar would not motivate people to write similar articles. Even if there is also no guarantee that it is something more than just someone’s strategy to make money quickly.
Wikipedia has little influence on what’s practiced in a seminar with the headline tantra. At the same time of course it’s not simply about the stereotype it has.
One element of tantra is for example strong eye contact.
You can go to a PUA seminar and hear a lecture by a guy about holding eye contact. That often leads to guys going out and being uncalibrated.
If you on the other hand learn eye contact in a tantra seminar the resulting behavior is likely much better calibrated.
I speak about the kind of event that’s titled a tantra seminar and take my knowledge of what happens there from people I meet in meatspace who took part in such events.
That’s a fair demand, but I don’t want to go in too much detail on that point. There a lot of inferential distance in talking about New Age practices on LW and Tantra isn’t a subject I studied deeply enough to be confident that I fully understand it’s theory base.
There are a lot of quick success schemes sold with the same marketing that PUA products are sold. The fact that people are willing to pay money for a dream of quick success doesn’t mean that they can deliver on the promise.
PUA is a quite complex topic.
Male anxiety is an issue, and I don’t think that an expensive 3 to 4 day bootcamp normally fixes it. Neither does watching a 24 DVD set sold for 499$.
If I could either send a 18 year old to a tantra seminar or to a PUA seminar, I’m not sure that the PUA seminar is the one that gives the higher return as far as improving his success with the opposite sex.
The fact that you believe that might be the problem and illustrate lack of ability of dealing with women.
Irrationality is an issue, and I don’t think that reading the Sequences normally fixes it. Neither does a 3-day rationality seminar for $3900.
Still, for some people it’s a good option.
I would expect different things working for different people.
The interesting thing is that the tantra seminar would not motivate people to write similar articles. Even if there is also no guarantee that it is something more than just someone’s strategy to make money quickly.
Tantra isn’t really new-age exotic sex practices.
Wikipedia has little influence on what’s practiced in a seminar with the headline tantra. At the same time of course it’s not simply about the stereotype it has.
One element of tantra is for example strong eye contact. You can go to a PUA seminar and hear a lecture by a guy about holding eye contact. That often leads to guys going out and being uncalibrated. If you on the other hand learn eye contact in a tantra seminar the resulting behavior is likely much better calibrated.
I feel we are using the word “tantra” in entirely different meanings.
I speak about the kind of event that’s titled a tantra seminar and take my knowledge of what happens there from people I meet in meatspace who took part in such events.
Well, what happens there?
That’s a fair demand, but I don’t want to go in too much detail on that point. There a lot of inferential distance in talking about New Age practices on LW and Tantra isn’t a subject I studied deeply enough to be confident that I fully understand it’s theory base.