I’d like to know how seeing a prostitute will help a young man develop the skills he needs to get into sexual relationships through dating—because I just don’t see the connection.
Dating and sex are related skills. I assume we agree a prostitute could give a good intro to sex. So why shouldn’t she be a good dating coach too? The young man won’t need to fear rejection from her, nor fear being talked about later, so they can role-play in emotional safety. She can still tell him what’s going to cause rejection when he’s not a customer, and what’s going to work better. Best of all, she can lead all the way, past exchanging numbers and kissing all the way to sex etiquette.
Of course there’s the drawback of possible shame over having visited a prostitute—but virginity can be a source of shame too. So I figure that for the median male adult virgin, seeing a prostitute would be net plus, especially if he manages to specifically ask for dating and first time sex roleplay.
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Dating and sex are related skills. I assume we agree a prostitute could give a good intro to sex. So why shouldn’t she be a good dating coach too? The young man won’t need to fear rejection from her, nor fear being talked about later, so they can role-play in emotional safety. She can still tell him what’s going to cause rejection when he’s not a customer, and what’s going to work better. Best of all, she can lead all the way, past exchanging numbers and kissing all the way to sex etiquette.
I hear that prostitutes who do that charge a lot—more than typical 17-year-olds can easily afford, and low-end prostitutes basically just let you masturbate with their bodies.
Prostutites don’t need a statutory rape charge any more than anybody else, so obviously I’m not talking about 17-year-olds. I mean guys of legal age.
Concerning economics, it’s hard to compare. Here in Germany, prostitution is legal, the market is efficient, and there are lots of sex workers competent and professional enough to pull off what I described, available for 100-200 euros per hour. I imagine that in places where prostitution is illegal, the situation would be very different—especially if due to the threat of prosecution, potential customers can’t simply email their needs and budget to a couple of providers to get a good offer...
I’m not sure whether this is really a neutral coaching situation. For really independent sex-workers maybe. But I hear that many still work for a pimp, are highly motivated the extract high amounts from the yongster and wouldn’t necessarily provide a neutral emotionally safe environment. This is from the source with significant (but possibly somewhat out-dated) work-experience in this field.
Dating and sex are related skills. I assume we agree a prostitute could give a good intro to sex. So why shouldn’t she be a good dating coach too? The young man won’t need to fear rejection from her, nor fear being talked about later, so they can role-play in emotional safety. She can still tell him what’s going to cause rejection when he’s not a customer, and what’s going to work better. Best of all, she can lead all the way, past exchanging numbers and kissing all the way to sex etiquette.
Of course there’s the drawback of possible shame over having visited a prostitute—but virginity can be a source of shame too. So I figure that for the median male adult virgin, seeing a prostitute would be net plus, especially if he manages to specifically ask for dating and first time sex roleplay.
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Usernameandpassword)I hear that prostitutes who do that charge a lot—more than typical 17-year-olds can easily afford, and low-end prostitutes basically just let you masturbate with their bodies.
Prostutites don’t need a statutory rape charge any more than anybody else, so obviously I’m not talking about 17-year-olds. I mean guys of legal age.
Concerning economics, it’s hard to compare. Here in Germany, prostitution is legal, the market is efficient, and there are lots of sex workers competent and professional enough to pull off what I described, available for 100-200 euros per hour. I imagine that in places where prostitution is illegal, the situation would be very different—especially if due to the threat of prosecution, potential customers can’t simply email their needs and budget to a couple of providers to get a good offer...
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I’m not sure whether this is really a neutral coaching situation. For really independent sex-workers maybe. But I hear that many still work for a pimp, are highly motivated the extract high amounts from the yongster and wouldn’t necessarily provide a neutral emotionally safe environment. This is from the source with significant (but possibly somewhat out-dated) work-experience in this field.