I didn’t say that you were doing the same thing you were accusing hir of doing; I said you were both jumping to conclusions about character on the basis of single actions. And hir objection, while a significant over-reaction, didn’t go so far as to directly reduce you to a mere class of person.
If you’d said that throwing tantrums like that caused people to spend their lives silent and paralyzed, that’d get the same point across without stooping to the actual personal attack of “people like you”.
(Certainly, some people might still take it as a personal attack without that phrase, but you’d be less likely to have your existing allies take up their side, interpreting you as needlessly kicking an underdog.)
I didn’t say that you were doing the same thing you were accusing hir of doing; I said you were both jumping to conclusions about character on the basis of single actions. And hir objection, while a significant over-reaction, didn’t go so far as to directly reduce you to a mere class of person.
If you’d said that throwing tantrums like that caused people to spend their lives silent and paralyzed, that’d get the same point across without stooping to the actual personal attack of “people like you”.
(Certainly, some people might still take it as a personal attack without that phrase, but you’d be less likely to have your existing allies take up their side, interpreting you as needlessly kicking an underdog.)