Visakan Veerasamy: love this: awkward shy rejection-sensitive pimply Asian guy asked 100 girls out on a date. 19 said yes! 10 were lesbian. Concludes that he got over his fear of rejection in a single day.
Maybe I’m looking at this from the wrong angle, but fear of rejection seems quite well justified if the base failure rate is 81%.
Who cares, someone could argue, the maximally bad thing that can happen is a polite “no”. Wrong. The maximally bad thing that can happen is asking the Bird Sorcerer type who yells at you for even trying. How many women react like that? Certainly a minority, but I don’t think it’s an incredibly small minority (rememeber that the lizardmen constant is 4%; I wouldn’t be too surprised to find out that at least 4% of women react very negatively to being asked for a date out of the blue).
Would you go on a first date if there were a 20% chance that instead of an actual date someone would yell at you? It’s obviously not a pleasant possibility, but IMO still worth it.
Well, I won’t, but I’m not a good data point since I belong to the “don’t want a relationship” group, and I’m not sure if I would go on a date even if assured that no one would yell at me.
Generally speaking, a 20% chance of being yelled at vs a 80% chance of wonderful date seems still a good bet, but I guess the actual numbers are more similar to 5% horrible date, 10% good date and the rest somewhat mediocre dates which are not actively unpleasant but still a waste of time (I fully understand why someone would not like to sit through 7-8 mediocre dates before the good one).
The lizardman constant doesn’t seem related to me. If your thinking process is something like “what percent of women will react this way? Well, the lizardman constant is 4%. Sure, could be around that” then I think you’re being anchored by something unhelpful.
Maybe, but the lizardmen constant is poll-related and 4% of women answering “yes” to a question like “do you think that men asking girls out of the blue should be severely chastised?” does not seem implausible.
(on a second thought, maybe this proves too much?)
Maybe I’m looking at this from the wrong angle, but fear of rejection seems quite well justified if the base failure rate is 81%.
Who cares, someone could argue, the maximally bad thing that can happen is a polite “no”. Wrong. The maximally bad thing that can happen is asking the Bird Sorcerer type who yells at you for even trying. How many women react like that? Certainly a minority, but I don’t think it’s an incredibly small minority (rememeber that the lizardmen constant is 4%; I wouldn’t be too surprised to find out that at least 4% of women react very negatively to being asked for a date out of the blue).
Would you go on a first date if there were a 20% chance that instead of an actual date someone would yell at you? It’s obviously not a pleasant possibility, but IMO still worth it.
Well, I won’t, but I’m not a good data point since I belong to the “don’t want a relationship” group, and I’m not sure if I would go on a date even if assured that no one would yell at me.
Generally speaking, a 20% chance of being yelled at vs a 80% chance of wonderful date seems still a good bet, but I guess the actual numbers are more similar to 5% horrible date, 10% good date and the rest somewhat mediocre dates which are not actively unpleasant but still a waste of time (I fully understand why someone would not like to sit through 7-8 mediocre dates before the good one).
The lizardman constant doesn’t seem related to me. If your thinking process is something like “what percent of women will react this way? Well, the lizardman constant is 4%. Sure, could be around that” then I think you’re being anchored by something unhelpful.
Maybe, but the lizardmen constant is poll-related and 4% of women answering “yes” to a question like “do you think that men asking girls out of the blue should be severely chastised?” does not seem implausible.
(on a second thought, maybe this proves too much?)