I suspect that Dunbar’s number includes fictional characters and people you don’t know in person but have many information about them (celebrities, politicians). In the past people also had a few examples in this category, for example Jesus, or the local king, but that is at least an order of magnitude less than all current movie characters, celebrities, and politicians people are familiar with. Also, watching someone on TV is a stronger stimulus than merely hearing or reading about them.
So it seems to me quite likely that modern media consume our “empathy points”. (And the clickbait media make it even worse, because they burn all kinds of “giving-a-shit points” like a wildfire.)
A solution is spending time offline with other people (doing something else than watching media). Because people are not automatically strategic, someone has to organize an event and invite others. LW meetups, former classmates meeting at a cafe every Thursday, etc.
I suspect that Dunbar’s number includes fictional characters and people you don’t know in person but have many information about them (celebrities, politicians).
Never come across this idea before. Not yet sure if I agree or disagree. I will have to think about it. (Dunbar’s’ is approximate anyway which makes it harder to quantify.)
So it seems to me quite likely that modern media consume our “empathy points”.
That’s a good way to put it.
I’ve found a Reddit comment that describes another related problem:
This is the internet version of what happened to small towns. People were close and cared for each other because that is all they had. Once you open up the floodgates to a whole world of choice, settling for those around you makes you feel like a sucker, and it ruins you.
Spending time offline is probably part of the solution.
It’s not either-or; you could also decide to spend only 50% of your free time online, and 50% in the meatspace. It’s just more tempting to spend 100% of the free time online. Except those few moments when you would appreciate a company in meatspace, but everyone is too busy on Reddit.
I suspect that Dunbar’s number includes fictional characters and people you don’t know in person but have many information about them (celebrities, politicians). In the past people also had a few examples in this category, for example Jesus, or the local king, but that is at least an order of magnitude less than all current movie characters, celebrities, and politicians people are familiar with. Also, watching someone on TV is a stronger stimulus than merely hearing or reading about them.
So it seems to me quite likely that modern media consume our “empathy points”. (And the clickbait media make it even worse, because they burn all kinds of “giving-a-shit points” like a wildfire.)
A solution is spending time offline with other people (doing something else than watching media). Because people are not automatically strategic, someone has to organize an event and invite others. LW meetups, former classmates meeting at a cafe every Thursday, etc.
Never come across this idea before. Not yet sure if I agree or disagree. I will have to think about it. (Dunbar’s’ is approximate anyway which makes it harder to quantify.)
That’s a good way to put it.
I’ve found a Reddit comment that describes another related problem:
Spending time offline is probably part of the solution.
So, anyone wants to disconnect and settle for those in the immediate vicinity? Anyone? …anyone?
It’s not either-or; you could also decide to spend only 50% of your free time online, and 50% in the meatspace. It’s just more tempting to spend 100% of the free time online. Except those few moments when you would appreciate a company in meatspace, but everyone is too busy on Reddit.
YMMV, as usual, but no, not for me.
Since this is a prisoner’s dilemma, the solution won’t be based on unilateral cooperation.
I don’t think it’s a prisoner’s dilemma. I don’t want to disconnect and settle regardless of what people around me do.
That’s funny. That’s my meme. Give a shit points. Only so much give a shit to go around.