I do want to make it clear that people who are X often acknowledge that they are X, but don’t intensely worry about it. E.g. a friend who knows he’s abrasive, knows his life would be better if he were less abrasive on the margin, but doesn’t have the emotional reaction “oh god, am I being abrasive?” in the middle of social interactions.
Interesting! Different experiences.
I do want to make it clear that people who are X often acknowledge that they are X, but don’t intensely worry about it. E.g. a friend who knows he’s abrasive, knows his life would be better if he were less abrasive on the margin, but doesn’t have the emotional reaction “oh god, am I being abrasive?” in the middle of social interactions.