I suspect that “just noticing” is the most important thing here. Here’s what I mean.
Having the thought of “hm, maybe my desire for status is having a corrosive effect here” is one thing. What you do next—asking what the Rob Bensinger shoulder model says vs what the Habryka model says—is a different thing. I think that the first thing is both 1) a lot harder and 2) a lot more important.
Periodic journaling/reflecting seems like a good way to get yourself to “just notice”. Perhaps with some sort of “status can be corrosive” writing prompt.
OTOH, getting yourself to notice in the moment—ie. “I’m considering asking for feedback on this document, I wonder how my concern for status is affecting this”—seems kinda impractical. Our minds are on automatic too much. It reminds me of the “every battle is won before it is ever fought” quote. When you’re in the moment the battle has usually already been won or lost.
I suspect that “just noticing” is the most important thing here. Here’s what I mean.
Having the thought of “hm, maybe my desire for status is having a corrosive effect here” is one thing. What you do next—asking what the Rob Bensinger shoulder model says vs what the Habryka model says—is a different thing. I think that the first thing is both 1) a lot harder and 2) a lot more important.
Periodic journaling/reflecting seems like a good way to get yourself to “just notice”. Perhaps with some sort of “status can be corrosive” writing prompt.
OTOH, getting yourself to notice in the moment—ie. “I’m considering asking for feedback on this document, I wonder how my concern for status is affecting this”—seems kinda impractical. Our minds are on automatic too much. It reminds me of the “every battle is won before it is ever fought” quote. When you’re in the moment the battle has usually already been won or lost.