The standard advice is that if your standards for being in a relationship are too low, to the point where it seems as though practically everyone meets them, this is called being “desperate” and will make people want to avoid you.
As with most sound dating advice there are exceptions and in most cases doing the ‘wrong’ thing with confidence and intent ameliorates or even reverses the effect. If a man chooses to date below the maximum attractiveness that he could get with effort for reasons other than desperation he can be expected to have more success (in the short term) than if he pushed his limits. The challenge he faces to maintain social dominance is reduced. Laziness (or pragmatism) is not the same as neediness.
What would “dating down” look like, for a man?
The standard advice is that if your standards for being in a relationship are too low, to the point where it seems as though practically everyone meets them, this is called being “desperate” and will make people want to avoid you.
As with most sound dating advice there are exceptions and in most cases doing the ‘wrong’ thing with confidence and intent ameliorates or even reverses the effect. If a man chooses to date below the maximum attractiveness that he could get with effort for reasons other than desperation he can be expected to have more success (in the short term) than if he pushed his limits. The challenge he faces to maintain social dominance is reduced. Laziness (or pragmatism) is not the same as neediness.