Cute!!! I would note that most men are too conservative with touch in general. What you’re touching is not always as important as that your touching, which immediately establishes an intimacy not achievable by mere conversation. The woman will let you know in one way or another if she wants you to stop, but she will almost never say she wants you to start, or even know it herself. Learning how to give a backrub is probably a good idea.
I second the backrubs. Backrubs are excellent. Nonthreatening (well, assuming you don’t say anything creepy while near the neck, or stray south), casual, they feel awesome, and they’re easy to segue into from the other party stretching or just saying “my back is killing me”. I do recommend asking rather than just starting on one, though. Certain back problems don’t react well to them, and there might be hair or a necklace or something to get out of the way, and they can be delivered in a startling way if begun without warning.
Because “rational ” posts are considered harmful. “Rational” as a buzzword is discouraged around here, and top-level posts on the best way to do $RANDOM_ACTIVITY are better placed in /r/lifehacks than this forum. Heuristic: if it doesn’t sound like it fits without the “rational”, don’t post it.
Because it doesn’t have as much content as I expect of substantive comments in Main.
Because the tone strikes me as a little too… creepy, for lack of a better term, to be worthwhile in terms of pure fuzzies. Especially on a comment from 2009.
(Didn’t downvote the immediate parent, by the way.)
Cute!!! I would note that most men are too conservative with touch in general. What you’re touching is not always as important as that your touching, which immediately establishes an intimacy not achievable by mere conversation. The woman will let you know in one way or another if she wants you to stop, but she will almost never say she wants you to start, or even know it herself. Learning how to give a backrub is probably a good idea.
I second the backrubs. Backrubs are excellent. Nonthreatening (well, assuming you don’t say anything creepy while near the neck, or stray south), casual, they feel awesome, and they’re easy to segue into from the other party stretching or just saying “my back is killing me”. I do recommend asking rather than just starting on one, though. Certain back problems don’t react well to them, and there might be hair or a necklace or something to get out of the way, and they can be delivered in a startling way if begun without warning.
Compare George W. Bush and Angela Merkel.
Now that you said that, how the hell am I ever going to resist the temptation next time :(
Awesome advice. Now we just need you to make a “rational backrub” post.
Thanks Ali!
Why the.. down.. WHY?
One of those downvotes is mine. Here’s why.
Because “rational ” posts are considered harmful. “Rational” as a buzzword is discouraged around here, and top-level posts on the best way to do $RANDOM_ACTIVITY are better placed in /r/lifehacks than this forum. Heuristic: if it doesn’t sound like it fits without the “rational”, don’t post it.
Because it doesn’t have as much content as I expect of substantive comments in Main.
Because the tone strikes me as a little too… creepy, for lack of a better term, to be worthwhile in terms of pure fuzzies. Especially on a comment from 2009.
(Didn’t downvote the immediate parent, by the way.)