Can you say more about this process? I’m just wondering if there exists some relatively low-effort way to outright fix the discomfort; that seems like it would be the best solution all around.
I’m not really comfortable discussing since it’s a mix of holier-than-thou claiming (‘I’m less homophobic than thou, my reader’), anecdotage, and whatever, but since you asked...
I was fortunate enough to have a gay friend, and you know what, I’ll analogize it to when I went skydiving for the first time: as I sat there in the plane going up next to my tandem guy, I could feel my left thigh tensing up repeatedly and expressing my suppressed fear about jumping out of an airplane and falling thousands of feet through empty air, and I thought repeatedly to myself about how much I wanted to go skydiving and how this facility had never had a fatality and it was a beautiful day out and how the plane was full of people who were also going to jump out and how my tandem was a pro who jumped multiple times a day and probably didn’t want to die either so there was absolutely nothing to fear or be bothered by since I would definitely not die or be hurt significantly. And the jump itself was a crazy-awesome experience which totally vindicated my predictions and desire.
Hanging out with the friend and dealing with the small issue was like that, minus the crazy-awesome part, and spread out over much more time.
Can you say more about this process? I’m just wondering if there exists some relatively low-effort way to outright fix the discomfort; that seems like it would be the best solution all around.
I’m not really comfortable discussing since it’s a mix of holier-than-thou claiming (‘I’m less homophobic than thou, my reader’), anecdotage, and whatever, but since you asked...
I was fortunate enough to have a gay friend, and you know what, I’ll analogize it to when I went skydiving for the first time: as I sat there in the plane going up next to my tandem guy, I could feel my left thigh tensing up repeatedly and expressing my suppressed fear about jumping out of an airplane and falling thousands of feet through empty air, and I thought repeatedly to myself about how much I wanted to go skydiving and how this facility had never had a fatality and it was a beautiful day out and how the plane was full of people who were also going to jump out and how my tandem was a pro who jumped multiple times a day and probably didn’t want to die either so there was absolutely nothing to fear or be bothered by since I would definitely not die or be hurt significantly. And the jump itself was a crazy-awesome experience which totally vindicated my predictions and desire.
Hanging out with the friend and dealing with the small issue was like that, minus the crazy-awesome part, and spread out over much more time.
Shouldn’t you be looking for a trans friend, then?