I guess about 70th percentile among males roughly my age I see around (though there may be selection effects in which males roughly my age I see around, given than in certain places (e.g. buses) I see many more ugly males (and ugly people in general) than in other places (e.g. dance clubs), and I’m not sure that my aesthetic judgement isn’t totally out of whack (given that I’m straight); OTOH I do seem to be cold-approached more often than the average male is, but I’m not actually sure how often the average male is cold-approached, either). I’m 90% sure I’m between 50th and 90th percentile.
and status?
Depends on how you measure it. On other hand, lots of people deeply admire me for my academic achievements, singing skills, and sense of humour; OTOH I’m somewhat nerdy (I scored 25 on the AQ test and 43rd/48th percentile extroversion in two Big Five tests—and I’m pretty sure I used to be much worse until a few years ago, and I’m useless at pretty much all sports). As a result, I think I achieve a high-variance strategy (as described here) whereby some people think I’m awesome and other people think I’m a freak. (Money-wise, I’ve never had economic troubles despite never having earned much due to having wealthy parents (though they don’t admit they are wealthy, as for some reason (too much TV?) they seem to only compare themselves to richer people and never to poorer people); but I don’t like to show off (because I don’t think I deserve money merely for being born from the right vagina), so I drive an old small car, wear cheap clothes, and when people notice my expensive smartphone I point out it was a graduation present from my father who had bought it second-hand.) (Not 100% sure the parentheses are balanced, but still.)
My personal experience suggests that anyone romantically/sexually attracted to you will do anything to either see you, or reschedule to see you.
Well. For some reason (not enough Hollywood movies?) I assumed that moving heaven and earth in order to see someone would come across as desperate and creep people out (both when deciding whether to do that, and when updating my beliefs when someone doesn’t do that). But now I see that I had no good reason to assume that. Will keep this in mind. (Also, as a result of the arrogance I got after hanging around on LW, I sometimes assumed it just hadn’t occurred to people that they could do $magic_trick if they really wanted to see me.) I’m thinking about who has gone way out of their way to see me and who hasn’t, and I can’t see anything obviously wrong with the answers.
This only works on guys/gals that you are not already familiar friends with because friends will turn you down because they know they will see you again.
Yes, I’ve used this particular thought pattern myself. (Of course it doesn’t always work because sometimes black swans happen before I get a chance to cash in the rain check, but still.)
Wow, this comment has grown much longer than I expected.
I guess about 70th percentile among males roughly my age I see around (though there may be selection effects in which males roughly my age I see around, given than in certain places (e.g. buses) I see many more ugly males (and ugly people in general) than in other places (e.g. dance clubs), and I’m not sure that my aesthetic judgement isn’t totally out of whack (given that I’m straight); OTOH I do seem to be cold-approached more often than the average male is, but I’m not actually sure how often the average male is cold-approached, either). I’m 90% sure I’m between 50th and 90th percentile.
Depends on how you measure it. On other hand, lots of people deeply admire me for my academic achievements, singing skills, and sense of humour; OTOH I’m somewhat nerdy (I scored 25 on the AQ test and 43rd/48th percentile extroversion in two Big Five tests—and I’m pretty sure I used to be much worse until a few years ago, and I’m useless at pretty much all sports). As a result, I think I achieve a high-variance strategy (as described here) whereby some people think I’m awesome and other people think I’m a freak. (Money-wise, I’ve never had economic troubles despite never having earned much due to having wealthy parents (though they don’t admit they are wealthy, as for some reason (too much TV?) they seem to only compare themselves to richer people and never to poorer people); but I don’t like to show off (because I don’t think I deserve money merely for being born from the right vagina), so I drive an old small car, wear cheap clothes, and when people notice my expensive smartphone I point out it was a graduation present from my father who had bought it second-hand.) (Not 100% sure the parentheses are balanced, but still.)
Well. For some reason (not enough Hollywood movies?) I assumed that moving heaven and earth in order to see someone would come across as desperate and creep people out (both when deciding whether to do that, and when updating my beliefs when someone doesn’t do that). But now I see that I had no good reason to assume that. Will keep this in mind. (Also, as a result of the arrogance I got after hanging around on LW, I sometimes assumed it just hadn’t occurred to people that they could do $magic_trick if they really wanted to see me.) I’m thinking about who has gone way out of their way to see me and who hasn’t, and I can’t see anything obviously wrong with the answers.
Yes, I’ve used this particular thought pattern myself. (Of course it doesn’t always work because sometimes black swans happen before I get a chance to cash in the rain check, but still.)
Wow, this comment has grown much longer than I expected.