The first can often be distinguished from the latter two and sometimes from the second by talking as-though-idly to the person about your alternatives. (“But if I stay home, I can go see that movie with my sister on Tuesday.” “On the other hand, the hotel has a pool.”) They can then say positive things about the alternatives, which is your cue to go with one of those.
This doesn’t work if you have no alternatives or your alternatives are all so terrible that there is nothing plausibly good about them—if you do that in that case you sound passive-aggressive (“Or I suppose I could just sleep in my car”, “Well, I could crash with my cousin in Albuquerque if I were willing to get rid of my beloved cat”).
The first can often be distinguished from the latter two and sometimes from the second by talking as-though-idly to the person about your alternatives. (“But if I stay home, I can go see that movie with my sister on Tuesday.” “On the other hand, the hotel has a pool.”) They can then say positive things about the alternatives, which is your cue to go with one of those.
This doesn’t work if you have no alternatives or your alternatives are all so terrible that there is nothing plausibly good about them—if you do that in that case you sound passive-aggressive (“Or I suppose I could just sleep in my car”, “Well, I could crash with my cousin in Albuquerque if I were willing to get rid of my beloved cat”).