Genderfluidity is a thing, and some people do have ‘phases’ of feeling like one gender that eventually end. Neither of those things invalidate the individual’s feelings in the moment, or make it less necessary to have a way of handling the current situation so that it doesn’t take over your life.
It may be worth considering what happens in the worst case if you go through with a modification you’re considering, and how you might handle that. Like, to use a personal example, I’m genderfluid between female, third gender, and agender, and I’m considering top surgery; the worst case scenario is that my gender might solidify on ‘female’ in such a way that I find it unpleasant to be flat-chested. I don’t think that’s very likely—as of right now I’m perfectly fine with the idea of being flat-chested even when I’m ‘in female mode’ - but even if it happens I think I can handle it, and it also suggests that I might want to go with a reduction, to the point where I can comfortably wear a binder when I feel particularly inclined and not have ’em be such a big deal the rest of the time (kinda not an option right now) rather than an outright removal.
All good points. I have two to add:
Genderfluidity is a thing, and some people do have ‘phases’ of feeling like one gender that eventually end. Neither of those things invalidate the individual’s feelings in the moment, or make it less necessary to have a way of handling the current situation so that it doesn’t take over your life.
It may be worth considering what happens in the worst case if you go through with a modification you’re considering, and how you might handle that. Like, to use a personal example, I’m genderfluid between female, third gender, and agender, and I’m considering top surgery; the worst case scenario is that my gender might solidify on ‘female’ in such a way that I find it unpleasant to be flat-chested. I don’t think that’s very likely—as of right now I’m perfectly fine with the idea of being flat-chested even when I’m ‘in female mode’ - but even if it happens I think I can handle it, and it also suggests that I might want to go with a reduction, to the point where I can comfortably wear a binder when I feel particularly inclined and not have ’em be such a big deal the rest of the time (kinda not an option right now) rather than an outright removal.