This catalog of shaming tactics from a rather polarizing organization A Voice For Men is quite interesting, regardless of whether you approve their agenda, and is probably applicable to many other cases where an attacker uses the emotion of shame to achieve their goals. I’m wondering what cognitive biases are in play here? Having been on the receiving end of many of these attacks, I cannot calmly think through the answer on my own.
Practical advice to both sides: don’t assume that the other person is an evil mutant. Practice releasing againstness. Model the other person in enough detail that you can understand why they thought what they just said was a reasonable thing to say. I think that’s a good place to start.
It’s a good advice, but not at all what I was asking. Feel free to post your advice on the site, I don’t read it or participate, only got linked to it.
I took a fast pass through them, and the initial few looked good. The overgeneralization section impressed me less because the recommended answer was “feminists do it too!”.
This catalog of shaming tactics from a rather polarizing organization A Voice For Men is quite interesting, regardless of whether you approve their agenda, and is probably applicable to many other cases where an attacker uses the emotion of shame to achieve their goals. I’m wondering what cognitive biases are in play here? Having been on the receiving end of many of these attacks, I cannot calmly think through the answer on my own.
Practical advice to both sides: don’t assume that the other person is an evil mutant. Practice releasing againstness. Model the other person in enough detail that you can understand why they thought what they just said was a reasonable thing to say. I think that’s a good place to start.
It’s a good advice, but not at all what I was asking. Feel free to post your advice on the site, I don’t read it or participate, only got linked to it.
Sorry. Fundamental attribution error and the horns effect.
I took a fast pass through them, and the initial few looked good. The overgeneralization section impressed me less because the recommended answer was “feminists do it too!”.