The alternatives do suck, but “carry on believing as always” and “deconvert, then tell an uncomfortable truth” are at least not unethical.
Choosing to believe falsely and then speaking honestly is at least as unethical as choosing to believe truly and then lying. The former amounts to lying and then committing the further ethical crime of believing one’s own lies.
For clarification, see my reply to MrHen.
Choosing to believe falsely and then speaking honestly is at least as unethical as choosing to believe truly and then lying. The former amounts to lying and then committing the further ethical crime of believing one’s own lies.