The behaviour you advocate here is totally unethical.
To get sex with no strings attached, you have to lie and manipulate, or be extremely high-value for some reason. (e.g. by being a rock-star)
This is, as I often say here, entirely counter to my experience. Lots of women are attracted to no-strings sex; you just have to be a good person to have no-strings sex with. I think in large part people sleep with me because I accurately communicate a happy, positive, fun-loving attitude to sex from which people correctly infer that I’ll be fun to sleep with and I won’t be trouble afterwards.
I think in large part people sleep with me because I accurately communicate a happy, positive, fun-loving attitude to sex from which people correctly infer that I’ll be fun to sleep with and I won’t be trouble afterwards.
Could be! I believe that sort of thing could work, and I don’t know you, so maybe you really do have a great attitude and it really does work for you, and if so, great—enjoy the sex.
One thing that bothers me, out of context, is that the idea that people sleep with you because they can tell you’re fun to sleep with is awfully convenient. It suggests that you deserve a decent helping of sex, whereas others don’t. Now, maybe bitter ex-nice-guys like Sirducer don’t have as good of an attitude as you do. I think you probably should get some credit. But what about looks? Money? Sense of humor? The recursive confidence that comes from knowing that someone will probably sleep with you soon?
Do you really have a good reason to think that your fun-loving attitude is more important than the rest of that stuff put together?
The behaviour you advocate here is totally unethical.
This is, as I often say here, entirely counter to my experience. Lots of women are attracted to no-strings sex; you just have to be a good person to have no-strings sex with. I think in large part people sleep with me because I accurately communicate a happy, positive, fun-loving attitude to sex from which people correctly infer that I’ll be fun to sleep with and I won’t be trouble afterwards.
Could be! I believe that sort of thing could work, and I don’t know you, so maybe you really do have a great attitude and it really does work for you, and if so, great—enjoy the sex.
One thing that bothers me, out of context, is that the idea that people sleep with you because they can tell you’re fun to sleep with is awfully convenient. It suggests that you deserve a decent helping of sex, whereas others don’t. Now, maybe bitter ex-nice-guys like Sirducer don’t have as good of an attitude as you do. I think you probably should get some credit. But what about looks? Money? Sense of humor? The recursive confidence that comes from knowing that someone will probably sleep with you soon?
Do you really have a good reason to think that your fun-loving attitude is more important than the rest of that stuff put together?